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From Refugee to Pop Star: Christian Ray Flores on Faith, Freedom, and the Power of Manhood

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A Life Shaped by Challenge and Courage

In a recent episode of Manlihood: a podcast for men, host Josh Hatcher sat down with Christian Ray Flores—entrepreneur, evangelist, former Russian pop star, and former refugee. Christian’s story is one of extraordinary transformation: from war zones and political oppression to global fame and a life of faith and purpose in the United States.

“I was born in Moscow, moved to Chile, then to Germany as a refugee,” Christian shares. “By the time I was seven, I had lived on four continents and experienced multiple wars and dictatorships.”

This whirlwind of hardship didn’t break him—it forged him. And it’s given Christian a unique lens through which he now teaches others about resilience, opportunity, and manhood.

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Why America Still Matters

One of the strongest themes in the episode was Christian’s gratitude for the freedom and opportunity found in America.

“People who grew up here often don’t realize how good they have it,” Christian says. “You can come here and start over. That’s not true in most of the world.”

In fact, Christian’s love for America inspired his book, Little Book of Big Reasons to Love America, which outlines 10 powerful truths from an immigrant’s perspective. He recounts growing up without access to private property, free speech, or travel—and how those limitations shaped his understanding of freedom.

“72% of the world lives under authoritarian regimes today—not 100 years ago—today. That’s why I wrote the book. People need to remember what makes this country special.”

Apprenticeship Over Academia

In a society obsessed with college degrees and credentials, Christian offers a refreshing (and ancient) perspective on learning: apprenticeship.

“The modern education system was built to create factory workers and soldiers. We borrowed it from the Prussians,” Josh notes.

Christian agrees and adds, “For 5,000 years, humans learned by apprenticeship—by watching, serving, and asking questions. You don’t just need information. You need pattern recognition. You need to follow someone and become like them.”

This hands-on mentorship model isn’t just about skills; it’s about character. It’s how Christian says he learned to become the kind of husband, father, and leader he never saw growing up.

“I found a man whose life I wanted to emulate. I asked him to disciple me. I humbled myself and did everything he told me to do.”

Manhood: A High Calling, Not a Cultural Cliché

So what does it mean to be a man?

For Christian, the answer is grounded in Scripture and anchored in responsibility.

“Manhood is elevating ourselves to God’s design. The Bible says a husband’s job is to present his wife radiant before Christ. That’s a high calling. That’s what it means to be a man.”

His bold view of masculinity includes courage, integrity, leadership, and service. It’s not about dominance or status—but about laying your life down to build up others.

“My father, my grandfather—they failed as men. I love them, but I wanted to break that cycle. I’ve now been married 25 years. That’s manhood.”

From Soviet Pop Star to Spiritual Coach

After the fall of the Soviet Union, Christian became a national icon across 15 countries in the former USSR. His song “Our Generation” became the anthem for Boris Yeltsin’s presidential campaign and helped galvanize youth against the return of communism.

But fame wasn’t the destination—it was a launchpad.

Today, Christian leads Exponential Life, a coaching and consulting business that helps leaders find success and significance.

“You can be successful and still feel empty. I want to help people integrate success with purpose—commerce with cause.”

He also publishes a highly popular newsletter called Headspace, with over 20,000 subscribers, and hosts a podcast where he interviews world-changers and thought leaders about human flourishing.

Encouragement for Young Men

Christian had a strong word for the next generation of men—especially those who feel stuck.

“The biggest issue isn’t that opportunity is missing. It’s that belief is missing. You don’t believe in yourself. Find a mentor. Serve him. Learn everything you can. And build something.”

He emphasizes that even in a struggling economy, it has never been easier to gain skills, start a business, or change your life. But it requires humility, grit, and a commitment to do the work.

Final Words of Advice

Josh asked Christian what advice he would give to the men listening.

“You are made in the image of God. That means you were made for dominion—for purpose. Develop a deep faith—not just in God, but in who God says you are.”

Powerful. Simple. True.

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Basic Auto Maintenance Forge Night for Men in Bradford PA

🔧 From Oil Changes to Brotherhood: Local Men Gather to Learn and Lead at “Forge Night”

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Tribe of Lions and Manlihood team up to equip men in practical skills—and purpose.

Forge Night Events for Men in Bradford PA

Bradford, PA — On Monday, May 12 at 6:30 PM, the parking lot of Open Arms Community Church (71 Congress Street) won’t just be full of cars—it’ll be full of men learning how to take care of them.

It’s part of an ongoing initiative called Forge Nights, hosted by Tribe of Lions, a men’s microchurch rooted in discipleship, brotherhood, and mission—and supported by Manlihood, a nationally recognized men’s movement and podcast.

Forge Nights are exactly what they sound like: men gathering to be forged—strengthened—by learning and doing. In May, that means practical skills every man should know, like basic car maintenance. Veteran mechanic Brian Mahaney will lead the session, but the real power of the night lies in the shared knowledge and hands-on learning between the men.

“This isn’t a lecture in a garage,” says Josh Hatcher, founder of Manlihood and leader of Tribe of Lions. “It’s a chance for men to show up, roll up their sleeves, and learn from each other. Whether you know how to change your oil or you’ve never opened your hood—we’re going to learn together.”

The Forge Night on May 12 will cover foundational automotive skills—from checking fluids to jump-starting a dead battery. The event is free, open to men and teen boys, and requires no prior experience.

Tribe of Lions meets regularly for Bible study and faith-based brotherhood, but Forge Nights intentionally offer a space where faith and community meet without pressure.

“Nobody’s preaching at anybody,” Hatcher adds. “We believe that men grow when they’re doing something meaningful side by side. Sometimes that means studying scripture. Sometimes that means learning how to keep your car running. Both matter.”

Forge Nights are held monthly, with future events already planned, including a self-defense seminar in June and other practical skill sessions throughout the year.

The Forge Nights series is part of a broader collaboration with Manlihood, Hatcher’s online men’s movement and podcast, which has racked up nearly one million downloads and featured guests ranging from Victor Marx and Jim Shockey to Dr. John Delony and Judge Joe Brown.

“Our goal is simple,” says Hatcher. “To help men become better men—and to do it in community.”

📍 Event Details:

Forge Night: Basic Car Maintenance
📅 Monday, May 12
🕡 6:30 PM
📍 Open Arms Community Church Parking Lot
71 Congress Street, Bradford, PA
🧰 FREE | All men and teen boys welcome

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Kelly Kirk - Manlihood - a podcast for men

Grief, Growth, and Grit: Kelly Kirk’s Mission to Turn Pain into Purpose

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What do you do when life takes everything from you?

Your business.
Your home.
Your family.
Even the woman you love.

For Kelly Kirk, the answer wasn’t to give up—it was to rise up.

In this episode of Manlihood, I sat down with Kelly to hear his raw, powerful story of loss, love, and the relentless pursuit of purpose. From living in his car to building a nonprofit that’s changing lives, Kelly shows us what true masculine strength looks like—and it’s not what most people think.

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From Rock Bottom to Rebuilding

Kelly Kirk was once a successful entrepreneur and competitive bodybuilder. But when his gym collapsed and personal relationships unraveled, he found himself homeless—living in a Smart Car and scraping by on Craigslist gigs. The only person who knew the full truth was Sophia, the woman who inspired him to fight back.

Their bond was deep, and their dreams were big. But just as life began to stabilize, Sophia passed away unexpectedly. In the midst of unimaginable grief, Kelly made a promise: he would not let her story end with tragedy.

The Birth of 222Muscle: Mental Health Through Physical Strength

Out of that heartbreak, Kelly founded 222Muscle: The Sophia Graham Foundation, the first nonprofit of its kind focused on improving mental health through physical strength. It provides gym memberships, training, and support for individuals overcoming trauma—whether it’s addiction, divorce, loss, or mental illness.

He also became a certified leadership speaker and now teaches high schoolers how to grow through what they go through.

“You don’t get over grief. You learn to live through it. And when you grow, you grow into someone new.” – Kelly Kirk

Why This Conversation Matters

If you’ve ever felt broken, burned out, or just stuck in your own pain, this conversation will hit home. Kelly’s story is a masterclass in resilience, discipline, and emotional honesty. He doesn’t pretend to have all the answers—but he proves that healing is possible when you show up, one day at a time.

In this episode, we talk about:

  • Using fitness and fasting to fight depression
  • The power of community and having a “why”
  • Rebuilding identity after loss
  • What real masculinity looks like in hard times
  • The mindset shifts that move men forward

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Final Thoughts

This episode isn’t just a story—it’s an invitation.
To grow.
To fight.
To build something meaningful, even in the shadow of loss.

If you’re in a season of pain, let Kelly’s story remind you: you’re not alone—and you’re not done.

Jeremy Stalnecker - Mighty Oaks Foundation

Battlefield Lessons on Life and Leadership with Jeremy Stalnecker

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On this episode of the Manlihood Podcast, host Josh Hatcher sits down with Jeremy Stalnecker, a Marine Corps veteran, combat leader, pastor, author, and Executive Director of the Mighty Oaks Foundation. Together, they dive into the unseen battles men face after war—and how leadership, faith, and identity can lead them to victory.

Jeremy led Marines in the Iraq War and was awarded the Navy Commendation Medal with “V” for Valor, but when he came home, he faced a whole new war: the one in his own mind. In this powerful and raw conversation, he shares his journey of trauma, transition, healing, and purpose.

If you’re looking for a podcast for men that offers real answers to real struggles, this episode is a must-listen.

The Journey from Battlefield to Brotherhood

From Combat to Civilian Life

Jeremy shares how leading men in combat prepared him for leadership—but not for the emotional fallout that followed. The transition to civilian life left him wrestling with identity and purpose.

The Birth of the Mighty Oaks Foundation

Out of his personal healing and calling, Jeremy partnered with Chad Robichaux to launch the Mighty Oaks Foundation, helping veterans, first responders, and service members overcome PTSD and discover their God-given purpose.

“My service to these men didn’t end when I put the uniform away. I realized I still had a responsibility to lead and help them heal.” – Jeremy Stalnecker

What Is PTSD, Really?

A Clear Definition

Jeremy breaks down PTSD not as a disorder, but as delayed healing—a loop where trauma gets stuck in the system and can’t be processed. He explains that PTSD is far more common than most think and affects men from all walks of life, not just combat veterans.

“If something happened that pushed you beyond your ability to cope, that’s trauma. And if it lingers, that’s post-traumatic stress.”

Men and the Danger of Silence

One of the greatest threats to men’s mental health is isolation. Jeremy encourages men to open up, stop pretending, and lean into the healing process.

Faith, Identity, and the Path to Healing

Who You Are and Whose You Are

Healing from trauma starts with discovering identity—not in brokenness, but in purpose. Jeremy explains how faith plays a critical role in building a foundation that can hold up against life’s storms.

“Our identity is not the worst thing that’s happened to us. Our identity is found in the One who made us.”

Misconceptions About God

Many men turn away from faith after trauma. Jeremy addresses the tough questions: Did God cause this? Why did He allow it? He offers clarity and hope from a biblical perspective.

How to Get Unstuck

Step One: Admit You’re in a Bad Spot

The first move toward healing is acknowledging the problem. That’s where real leadership begins.

Step Two: Tell Someone Who Cares

Men often isolate themselves when they’re hurting. Jeremy emphasizes the power of opening up to someone who loves you—and letting them walk with you.

Step Three: Take the Next Right Step

Whether it’s attending a Mighty Oaks Legacy Program, reaching out to your local church, or just asking for help—healing happens one step at a time.

What It Means to Be a Man

In one of the most impactful parts of the conversation, Jeremy defines manhood using wisdom from author Robert Lewis:

“Reject passivity, accept responsibility, lead courageously.”

It’s not about age, status, or toughness—it’s about taking ownership of what’s in front of you and stepping up to lead.

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Books by Jeremy Stalnecker

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Final Thoughts

You don’t have to stay stuck. The pain you’re carrying isn’t the end of your story.

If you’ve been looking for a podcast for men that gets real about trauma, faith, healing, and leadership—this is it.

Listen to the episode. Take a step. And don’t walk alone.

Kent Evans - Manhood Journey

Don’t Bench Yourself: Why Men Check Out and How to Get Back in the Game with Kent Evans | Manhood Journey

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Too many men are stepping away from their responsibilities when they should be stepping up. In today’s world, where distractions are endless and challenges seem overwhelming, it’s easy for men to withdraw from their roles as husbands, fathers, and leaders. But that’s not the answer.

In this episode of Manlihood, I sit down with Kent Evans, co-founder of Manhood Journey, to talk about why men sideline themselves, how to stay engaged in life’s biggest battles, and why learning from other men is the key to real growth. Kent shares insights from his book, Don’t Bench Yourself, where he outlines the major reasons men check out—fear, shame, criticism, and impatience—and provides a roadmap for getting back in the game.

If you’ve ever felt like giving up, struggling to stay present as a father, husband, or leader, or dealing with the pressure of responsibility, this article—and this conversation—is for you.

Who is Kent Evans?

Kent Evans is the Executive Director and co-founder of Manhood Journey, a ministry dedicated to helping fathers become disciple-makers. After a 20-year career in business leadership, he shifted his focus to guiding men in their spiritual and practical growth as fathers and mentors.

He’s the author of several books, including Don’t Bench Yourself and Wise Guys: Unlocking Hidden Wisdom from the Men Around You, and has been featured as a speaker at men’s conferences, churches, and leadership events worldwide.

Kent’s work has impacted nearly two million dads through books, podcasts, courses, and speaking engagements. He and his wife, April, have been married for over 25 years and have five sons and one daughter-in-law.

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Why Do Men Bench Themselves?

Many men struggle with the temptation to disengage when life gets difficult. Rather than facing challenges head-on, they check out, choosing distractions over responsibilities. In Don’t Bench Yourself, Kent identifies four primary reasons why men sideline themselves:

1. Fear: The Paralysis That Holds Men Back

Fear is one of the biggest reasons men step back instead of stepping up. Fear of failure, fear of rejection, fear of responsibility—these anxieties can keep men from pursuing their purpose.

Kent shares a personal story about feeling intimidated by high-speed pitches in baseball. The fear of stepping up to the plate made him want to sit on the bench. But he learned that facing fear, even if it meant striking out at first, was the only way to grow.

Fear can make men retreat, whether it’s in their careers, marriages, or relationships with their children. Instead of letting fear dictate their actions, men need to lean in and push through.

2. Shame: The Guilt That Keeps Men Stuck

Shame often follows failure. Many men make mistakes, whether in their marriage, parenting, or work, and instead of learning from them, they let shame define them.

Kent shares an example of a time his son was afraid to tell him something because he feared his reaction. That realization forced him to reflect on how his own actions were creating a culture of fear in his home. Rather than letting shame take over, Kent chose to own his mistakes and make a change.

Shame can either paralyze men or propel them forward. The key is recognizing past failures, taking responsibility, and moving forward rather than dwelling on them.

3. Criticism: The Weight of Other People’s Opinions

Whether it’s from family, coworkers, or even strangers on the internet, criticism can feel overwhelming. Many men allow negative feedback—real or imagined—to stop them from taking action.

Kent discusses how some criticism is actually helpful, providing constructive feedback that can make men better. However, there’s also destructive criticism that discourages and paralyzes men.

The difference lies in how a man processes it:

  • Wise men learn from constructive criticism.
  • Foolish men allow negative voices to dictate their decisions.

4. Impatience: The Desire for Quick Results

Many men start new habits or attempt to make changes but give up too quickly. If they don’t see results immediately, they assume they’ve failed.

Kent explains that growth is a slow and steady process. Just like training for a marathon or developing a skill, real transformation takes time. Whether it’s building a relationship with your kids, improving your marriage, or advancing in your career, patience is key.

How to Get Off the Bench and Back in the Game

It’s easy to step away from responsibilities, but it’s never too late to get back in the game. Kent outlines four steps to re-engage and take action:

1. Call It Out: Recognize Where You’ve Checked Out

The first step is honest self-reflection. Ask yourself:

  • Where have I been avoiding responsibility?
  • Have I been disengaged as a husband or father?
  • What areas of my life am I neglecting?

You can’t fix what you don’t acknowledge. Recognizing the problem is the first step toward change.

2. Make It Right: Take Responsibility and Fix What You Can

Once you identify where you’ve fallen short, take action. If you’ve neglected your marriage, have a conversation with your wife. If you’ve been distant from your kids, spend intentional time with them.

Small, consistent efforts create lasting change.

3. Leave It Behind: Stop Letting the Past Define You

Once you’ve owned up to your mistakes and started making amends, let go of past failures. Don’t let guilt or regret keep you from moving forward.

Learn from the past, but don’t live in it.

4. Let It Transform: Use Your Experience to Grow

The ultimate goal isn’t just to get back in the game—it’s to become a better man because of what you’ve learned.

Every challenge, failure, and hardship can either break you or build you into a stronger, wiser man. Choose to let it shape you for the better.

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As always, I love you, I’m proud of you, and I’ll see you next time!

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Overcoming Adversity with Chad Caden – A Man’s Journey of Resilience and Leadership | Podcast for Men

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What Does It Take to Be a Man? A Story of Grit, Integrity, and Brotherhood

In life, we all face moments where we are pushed to our limits. Times when we question everything we’ve built, when the obstacles seem too great, and when we have to decide whether to fight or fold.

For Chad Caden, a retired Chief Master Sergeant in the U.S. Air Force, that moment came when an unexpected medical condition threatened everything he had worked for.

In this episode of Manlihood, the top podcast for men, I sit down with Chad, my lifelong friend, to talk about overcoming life’s toughest battles, facing physical and mental challenges head-on, and what it really means to be a man.

Meet Chad Caden: A Lifetime of Service and Leadership

Chad and I grew up together in a small town in Pennsylvania, a place where hard work, loyalty, and resilience were part of everyday life.

From a young age, Chad understood the value of persistence. That mindset carried him into the U.S. Air Force, where he spent 26 years in service, rising through the ranks and eventually earning the esteemed title of Chief Master Sergeant—an honor held by only 1% of enlisted personnel.

But just as he reached the peak of his career, life threw him an unexpected challenge.

The Battle That Changed Everything

For years, Chad dealt with intense pain in his foot, but doctors dismissed it as minor tendonitis.

Even as the pain worsened, he pushed through—because that’s what men do, right? We push forward, we grind, and we don’t complain.

But eventually, the truth came out. His foot was dying from the inside out. The doctors finally confirmed that he had lost complete blood flow to the area.

Chad had a choice: fight to keep his leg or choose amputation and adapt to a new life.

His decision? He chose to fight forward. He embraced the challenge, refused to let it define him, and decided that his story wouldn’t end in defeat.

Life After Amputation: Finding Strength in Adversity

Amputation is something that can break a man—not just physically, but mentally and emotionally.

For Chad, it was an uphill battle filled with pain, frustration, and setbacks.

  • He had to relearn how to walk.
  • He battled phantom limb pain—nerve pain so intense it felt like a live wire running through his missing limb.
  • He struggled with self-doubt, wondering if he could still be the leader he once was.

But Chad wasn’t about to let his circumstances define him.

Instead, he leaned into the same mindset that made him a leader in the Air Force: grit, resilience, and relentless determination.

Within a year of his amputation, Chad:

✅ Completed a 100-mile mountain bike race
✅ Earned a perfect score on his military fitness test
✅ Deployed overseas again as an Air Force leader
✅ Became a mentor for others facing amputation and hardship

His message is clear: Being a man isn’t about avoiding pain—it’s about facing it head-on and coming out stronger.

The Real Definition of Strength: More Than Just Physical Power

Too often, society tells us that masculinity is about toughness, silence, and power.

But true strength? It’s something different.

True Strength Means:

✔ Facing challenges head-on, no matter how hard they seem
✔ Being a leader—not just in title, but in action and integrity
✔ Treating people with dignity and respect, no matter their status
✔ Having the courage to ask for help when you need it
✔ Standing up for those who don’t have a voice

Chad’s story is a testament to real masculinity—the kind that doesn’t seek validation but proves itself through action.

Manhood, Brotherhood, and the Power of Connection

One of the biggest themes in our conversation was the importance of brotherhood.

Whether it was growing up in a small town, serving alongside fellow airmen, or connecting with other amputees, Chad emphasized something that every man needs to hear:

👉 You are NOT meant to do life alone.

Men are wired for brotherhood, for deep friendships that push us to be better, hold us accountable, and keep us grounded.

That’s why I started the Manlihood Man Cave, a private community of men who are committed to growth, leadership, and helping each other level up.

🚀 Join us here: Manlihood Man Cave on Facebook

What It Takes to Be a Man: Chad’s Advice

At the end of the episode, I asked Chad, “What’s your best advice for the men listening today?”

His response?

💡 Be the man that 10-year-old you would be proud of.

💡 Be the man your kids look up to.

💡 Be the kind of man that treats people with respect—not just the ones who can help you, but especially the ones who can’t.

Being a man isn’t about ego. It’s about leadership, service, and integrity.

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Final Thoughts: What Challenge Are You Facing Today?

Chad’s story proves that no challenge is too great if you refuse to quit.

❓ What’s one challenge you’re facing right now?
❓ How can you step up as a leader today?

Let’s talk about it in the Manlihood Man Cave. Drop a comment or join the conversation.

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Living Life by Design: Break Free from Passivity with Mark Collins | Manlihood

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Too many men find themselves drifting through life, stuck in a cycle of passivity rather than stepping up to take control. But what if you could design your life with purpose instead of just reacting to whatever comes your way? Mark Collins joins us today to challenge men to do exactly that—to lead boldly, break free from self-doubt, and unlock the full potential of who they were created to be.

In this episode of Manlihood, host Josh Hatcher sits down with Mark Collins, a business and life coach, pastor, and author of Life Mastery: Living Life by Design, Not by Default. For over 17 years, Mark has helped men break through fear, uncertainty, and limiting beliefs to step into confident leadership in every area of life. He’s sharing the wisdom he’s gained through hard-earned experience—covering everything from faith and marriage to personal growth and mindset shifts that will help you build a life with intention.

If you’re ready to stop drifting and start designing the life you were meant to live, this episode will equip you with the strategies and perspective to make it happen. Let’s get into it.

Episode Summary:

In this episode of Manlihood, host Josh Hatcher sits down with Mark Collins, a business and life coach, pastor, and the founder of Life Mastery. Mark shares how he overcame personal struggles with fear, doubt, and imposter syndrome to develop a framework that helps men break free from passivity and step into bold leadership.

Mark discusses the difference between success and fulfillment, how men can overcome disempowering emotions like anxiety and fear, and the importance of identity in personal development. He provides practical tools for creating an identity statement, transforming your thoughts, and building a life by design rather than by default.

Throughout the episode, Josh and Mark break down how internal beliefs shape external outcomes, how past experiences can create false identity statements, and how men can shift their mindset to unlock the “hero in hiding.” Mark shares wisdom from his Life Mastery course and book, emphasizing the power of self-awareness, personal responsibility, and taking action toward becoming the man you were created to be.

If you’ve ever felt stuck, uncertain, or like there’s something more for your life—this episode will equip you with the mindset shifts and practical strategies to take control, design your life, and live with intention.

Timestamps:

🎧 00:00 – Introduction: Living Life by Design
🎤 01:12 – Meet Mark Collins: Life Mastery Expert
🛒 01:57 – Subscription Service and Merchandise
💬 03:16 – Starting the Conversation with Mark Collins
📖 06:30 – Mark’s Journey to Life Mastery
🏆 11:50 – Understanding Success vs. Fulfillment
🧠 19:31 – Overcoming Disempowering Emotions
🆔 29:10 – Identity Statements and Their Impact
💡 29:38 – Personal Experiences and Arguments
🔎 30:35 – Unpacking Identity and Self-Perception
➡️ 31:28 – Transferring Identity Across Life Areas
🛠 35:06 – Tools for Identity and Transformation
🎉 36:25 – Celebrating Accomplishments and Overcoming Lies
🚀 38:57 – Transforming Thoughts, Words, and Actions
📢 39:59 – The Power of Truth and Consistency
📖 45:50 – Faith and Universal Truths
💡 48:16 – Advice for Men and Personal Reflections
📌 54:02 – Conclusion and Resources

Key Takeaways from This Episode:

✔ Success vs. Fulfillment – Why external success doesn’t always equal inner peace and how to achieve both.
✔ Overcoming Fear and Anxiety – How false identity statements hold men back and how to replace them with truth.
✔ The Power of Identity – Why who you believe you are dictates your actions and outcomes.
✔ Practical Tools for Personal Growth – How to create an identity statement and track accomplishments to shift your mindset.
✔ Transforming Thoughts, Words, and Actions – A simple yet powerful process for lasting personal change.
✔ Faith and Leadership – How spiritual principles and personal development go hand in hand in leading a purposeful life.
✔ Taking Control of Your Life – Why passivity is a man’s greatest enemy and how to build a life by design, not by default.

Resources and Links:

🔗 Connect with Mark Collins:
 🌎 Website: freedom-4-life.net
 📖 Book: Life Mastery: Living Life by Design, Not by Default – Available on Amazon
 🎓 Life Mastery Course: Enroll Here
 📊 Free Life Mastery Discovery Tool: Take the Quiz

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Sam Jolman: The Sex Talk You Never Got

The Sex Talk You Never Got: Reclaiming Masculine Sexuality with Sam Jolman | Manlihood Podcast for Men

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When it comes to male sexuality, most men never got “the talk” they actually needed. Instead, we were left with a patchwork of shame, silence, and misinformation—and we’ve had to figure things out on our own.

But what if there’s a better way?

In this episode of Manlihood, host Josh Hatcher sits down with Sam Jolman, a therapist, writer, and expert on men’s issues, to discuss what it means for men to reclaim their sexuality with confidence, purpose, and joy.

🔹 Why this episode matters:

  • Sex is one of the hardest topics for men to talk about—even with their wives.
  • Many men struggle with shame, performance anxiety, and misconceptions about masculinity and desire.
  • Cultural narratives and past experiences shape our sexuality, often in ways we don’t even realize.
  • Healing is possible. The first step? Having an honest conversation.

🔥 If you’re looking for a podcast for men that gets real about topics most people shy away from, this is it.

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🧑‍⚕️ Meet Our Guest: Sam Jolman

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Sam Jolman is a licensed professional counselor, author, and expert in men’s mental and sexual health. With over 20 years of experience, Sam specializes in:

✔️ Men’s Issues – Helping men navigate masculinity, relationships, and identity.
✔️ Marriage Counseling – Strengthening communication and emotional intimacy.
✔️ Sexual Abuse Recovery – Guiding men through the process of healing past wounds.

Sam’s journey into counseling wasn’t just professional—it was deeply personal. After experiencing his own struggles as a husband, father, and man, he realized how profoundly misunderstood male sexuality is—even within faith and mental health communities.

“So few men have had meaningful conversations around their sexuality. Maybe they got a quick anatomy lesson… or if they were in Christian communities, they got a purity lecture. But they never actually learned what it means to integrate their sexuality with being a good man.” – Sam Jolman

Sam holds a Master of Arts in Counseling from Reformed Theological Seminary and advanced training in Narrative Focused Trauma Care from The Allender Center. He’s also worked extensively in men’s wilderness retreats, using the power of nature and deep conversation to help men rediscover their identity, strength, and purpose.

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📖 Read Sam’s Book: The Sex Talk You Never Got

Sam’s new book is a game-changer for men who want to reclaim their sexual confidence, break free from shame, and develop a healthy, faith-filled understanding of masculinity.

📖 Get it here: The Sex Talk You Never Got

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💬 Key Takeaways from the Conversation

1️⃣ Why Men Struggle to Talk About Sex

One of the biggest barriers men face is shame. Many men feel uncomfortable discussing sex—even with their wives—because they fear judgment, rejection, or not measuring up.

“Even in long-term marriages, expressing sexual desire takes vulnerability. And that vulnerability feels risky—even with a spouse you’ve been with for decades.” – Sam Jolman

2️⃣ Men Are More Than Just a ‘Sex Drive’

Society often reduces men to their physical urges, but Sam challenges this stereotype. Men are lovers at heart. They crave more than just physical release—they seek emotional connection, acceptance, and significance.

“Men don’t just want sex. They want to feel wanted. They want to feel pursued. They want to experience real intimacy.” – Sam Jolman

3️⃣ The Impact of Past Trauma on Male Sexuality

Many men don’t realize how early experiences—whether exposure to pornography, unhealthy relationships, or sexual abuse—shape their sexual identity.

“One in six men carry sexual abuse stories. But that number is almost certainly much higher—because men are four times less likely than women to talk about it.” – Sam Jolman

Sam explains that even subtle wounds—like being emotionally used by a parent or shamed for natural curiosity—can create deep-rooted issues that manifest in adulthood.

4️⃣ Healing Starts with Awareness & Honest Conversations

For men who struggle with pornography, performance anxiety, or emotional distance in their relationships, the first step toward healing is understanding the deeper needs underneath those struggles.

“Porn addiction isn’t about sex—it’s about comfort, stress relief, or soothing deeper wounds. Until you recognize that, the cycle won’t change.” – Sam Jolman

5️⃣ How to Start the Journey Toward Sexual Wholeness

If you’re ready to reclaim your sexuality in a healthy and meaningful way, Sam suggests:

✅ Identifying past experiences that shaped your view of sex – Journaling or talking with a trusted friend can help.
✅ Having honest conversations with your wife or partner – Even when it feels awkward.
✅ Finding a mentor, counselor, or men’s group – Healing happens in community.
✅ Reframing masculinity beyond just sex drive – You are a lover, designed to embrace all aspects of life with passion and purpose.

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🔥 Final Thoughts

Men, you are not alone. Every one of us has wounds, struggles, and questions when it comes to sexuality. The key is having the courage to explore them, talk about them, and heal.

This podcast for men is about breaking the silence, removing the shame, and stepping into masculinity with confidence.

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Richard Earl Lonsbury

Rising from Rock Bottom: The Rebirth of Masculinity with Richard Earl Lonsbury

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Losing Everything, Gaining Purpose

What does it truly mean to be a man? Is it strength? Power? Provision? For Richard Earl Lonsbury, the journey to masculinity was forged in failure, refined in hardship, and built on radical responsibility.

In this episode of Manlihood, Richard shares a raw and unfiltered account of losing everything—his family, his home, and even his self-respect—only to claw his way back, stronger than ever. His story is not just a comeback; it’s a blueprint for personal transformation.

If you’ve ever felt like you’ve hit rock bottom, this conversation is for you.

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The Breaking Point: A Life in Freefall

For much of his life, Richard admits he had no real understanding of masculinity. Instead, he drifted through relationships, struggles, and decisions that led him to one of the darkest places a man can be.

He lost custody of his kids.
He became homeless.
He drove his wife to buy drugs, too afraid to set boundaries.

At his lowest, he and his wife lived out of a Nissan Sentra, sneaking into parks to use the restroom in the middle of the night. Meanwhile, his children were being raised by his parents, safe but distant, as Richard and his wife spiraled through addiction, legal battles, and hopelessness.

But that wasn’t the end of the story.

The Wake-Up Call: Radical Responsibility

Everything changed when Richard was arrested in downtown Chicago. A warrant flagged him as a kidnapper because he and his wife had fled with their children instead of cooperating with authorities. He was chained to a wall in a holding cell, facing the harshest truth of his life.

For the first time, Richard had to look in the mirror and admit:

👉 No one else was to blame for where he was.
👉 Excuses wouldn’t save him.
👉 Only radical responsibility could pull him out.

“I realized that men have to be connected to their heart, to the voice of God, to their own decisions. We cannot outsource our masculinity to our circumstances or to others. Leadership means making the hard choices, even the unpopular ones.”

The Climb Back Up: Rebuilding Life and Masculinity

Richard’s turning point wasn’t just about getting sober or getting his kids back. It was about becoming the man they needed him to be.

✅ He stepped into leadership—not as a tyrant, but as a protector, provider, and guide.
✅ He embraced accountability, surrounding himself with strong, powerful men who challenged him to be better.
✅ His wife got clean. She’s now three years sober, and for the first time in their marriage, she calls him “safe.”
✅ He built a coaching practice out of nothing, generating more income than ever before.
✅ He found purpose in helping other men escape the same traps he once fell into.

Richard emphasizes that masculinity isn’t about control—it’s about responsibility.

“I had to learn that men are meant to lead—but leading isn’t about lording over people. It’s about serving them, taking responsibility for them, and creating a safe, strong space where they can grow.”

The Truth About Leadership, Masculinity, and Relationships

Many men struggle in silence, unsure of their place in their families, relationships, or society. Richard breaks down the biggest misconceptions about masculinity and leadership:

🚫 Leadership doesn’t mean dominance. It means accountability and care for those in your charge.
🚫 Marriage isn’t about control. It’s about mutual strength, growth, and trust.
🚫 Being a man isn’t about being “tough” all the time. It’s about being present, strong, and emotionally available.

For Richard, real masculinity is about being a rock—not an unfeeling one, but one that provides strength and stability for those he loves.

The Power of Brotherhood: Why Men Need Other Men

One of the biggest lessons Richard learned was that no man can do it alone.

“We are pack animals. The lone wolf mindset is an egoic, arrogant delusion that’s killing us. Surrounding yourself with men who challenge and inspire you is the single most powerful thing you can do.”

👉 Strong men hold you accountable. They won’t let you stay in victimhood.
👉 They push you to lead. They remind you that you are responsible for your choices.
👉 They don’t let you stay broken. They force you to rise up.

If you’re struggling, find a brotherhood. Whether it’s a mentor, a men’s group, or a community, having powerful men in your life changes everything.

Final Thoughts: The Road to Restoration

Richard’s story is proof that no matter how low you fall, you can rise again.

  • If you feel lost, start by taking ownership.
  • If you feel alone, find men who will challenge you.
  • If you’ve hurt people, start making things right.
  • If you’ve lost yourself, become the man you were meant to be.

Masculinity isn’t broken—it’s being reborn. And the only way to rebuild it is through ownership, leadership, and brotherhood.

Connect with Richard Earl Lonsbury

If you resonated with Richard’s story, you can connect with him and his work here:

📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/richard.lonsbury
📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therestoredman/
🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@richardlonsbury

🔥 What’s Your Rock Bottom Story?

Drop a comment below or connect with Richard and share your story. Your journey matters, and your growth can inspire someone else.

💪 Stay strong. Take ownership. Lead well. 💪

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Fighting Depression Like a Champion: The Courageous Journey of Dr. Donald ‘Skip’ Mondragon

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In this powerful episode of Manlihood, we sit down with Dr. Donald ‘Skip’ Mondragon, a decorated combat veteran, champion wrestler, and retired army colonel. His story is one of resilience, struggle, and ultimately, hope. Skip opens up about his battle with depression, how he overcame it, and why men need to step up and take care of their mental health.

Who Is Dr. Donald ‘Skip’ Mondragon?

Dr. Skip Mondragon is no stranger to adversity. A former U.S. Army Colonel, he dedicated more than 30 years of his life serving his country. As a physician, he cared for thousands of soldiers and their families, tackling both physical and mental health challenges. But Skip’s fight didn’t just happen on the battlefield or in hospitals—he also wrestled competitively for over four decades, instilling in himself the discipline and toughness that would later become both a strength and a struggle.

His experiences as a champion wrestler, combat veteran, and physician uniquely positioned him to understand the mental and emotional battles that many men face. Yet, despite all his accomplishments, Skip found himself grappling with a foe he never expected—crippling depression.

The Silent Struggle: How Depression Took Hold

For years, Skip embodied the classic “tough guy” mentality. He believed that as a soldier, a doctor, and a leader, he had to be strong at all times. But beneath the surface, he was unraveling. The stress of military life, personal struggles, and the weight of unspoken emotions led him into a deep depression.

Skip shares how he initially ignored the warning signs, convincing himself that he could power through it like he had with every other challenge in life. But the weight became unbearable, and he reached a breaking point that forced him to seek help.

His story resonates with so many men who suffer in silence, believing that vulnerability is weakness. Skip challenges this mindset, emphasizing that seeking help is not a sign of defeat—it’s a sign of strength.

Breaking the Stigma: The Importance of Mental Health for Men

One of the most powerful takeaways from this conversation is the importance of normalizing mental health struggles among men. Too often, men are conditioned to believe that emotions should be suppressed, that they should “man up” and push through without acknowledging their pain.

But the statistics paint a harsh reality:

  • Men are significantly more likely to die by suicide than women.
  • Many men suffer from undiagnosed depression due to stigma and societal expectations.
  • Those who don’t seek help often turn to unhealthy coping mechanisms like substance abuse, aggression, or isolation.

Skip’s mission is to change this narrative. Through his own experiences, he encourages men to speak up, ask for help, and take control of their well-being.

The Wrestling Mindset: Overcoming Depression Like a Champion

As a lifelong wrestler, Skip often uses wrestling metaphors to describe his battle with depression. Wrestling teaches you how to get back up when you’re knocked down, how to adapt when you’re in a tough position, and most importantly, how to keep fighting.

Depression, he explains, is a formidable opponent—but it’s one that can be defeated with the right mindset, support, and strategies.

Practical Strategies for Mental Well-Being

Throughout the episode, Skip shares actionable advice for men who may be struggling with depression or other mental health challenges:

  • Recognize the signs: Be honest with yourself. Are you feeling overwhelmed, exhausted, or disconnected? These are warning signals you shouldn’t ignore.
  • Talk to someone: Whether it’s a friend, therapist, or support group, opening up can be life-changing.
  • Prioritize self-care: Exercise, nutrition, sleep, and stress management play a crucial role in mental health.
  • Challenge toxic masculinity: Strength isn’t about suppressing emotions—it’s about confronting them head-on.

Why This Conversation Matters

This episode of Manlihood is more than just a discussion about depression—it’s a wake-up call. Men need to take their mental health seriously, just as they would their physical health. Skip’s story serves as an inspiration for men everywhere to embrace vulnerability, seek help, and fight for their well-being.

If you or someone you know is struggling with depression, know that you’re not alone. There is hope. There is help. And there is a way forward.

💪 Connect with Dr. Donald ‘Skip’ Mondragon:


👉website: https://www.transformedtoughguys.com/

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