New book on Amazon!
Josh Hatcher has published a new book on Amazon! It’s a book of “manly” poems. You should definitely check it out!
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Resolute: Make a lifelong resolution (Part 1)
Every New Year, talk of resolutions start surfacing. In this blog series, we’ll identify what it takes to make a fresh start, and to resolve to change your life permanently.
You may look at me and see a fat man who has wasted way to much money on orange cheese puffs and Mountain Dew. You’re probably right. Every year, I make the resolution that I’ll get healthy, and every year I try and fail. So far, in the past several months, I’ve been on a roll and making progress.
Manlihood contributor, Justin Willoughby lost 600 pounds. He’s 
not only my personal fitness coach and friend, but he’s helping to inspire many people to think beyond a New Year’s resolution.
When it comes to fitness, he’ll tell you – it’s got to be a lifelong commitment to change.
And I know from experience in other areas of my life, that this truth rings and resonates to the core of everything.
Whatever it is that you want to change this year – whatever part of your life that needs a reboot- it doesn’t work unless you resolve to make a lifelong change. As long as we view the New Year as a resolution starter, it gives us an out, because we can start over in ten months if we fail after two. I can tell you, if we’re talking about weight loss, that’s why I have probably lost the same 20 pounds 20 times!
Take some time this week to identify an area of your life that needs to change.
Your relationship with your spouse, your parenting skills, your work habits, launching a new career as a writer, becoming a more positive person – whatever it is that needs to change in your life.
Identify it.
And start meditating on what it means to change it permanently.
You don’t have to be stuck at a job you hate for the rest of your life. You don’t have to walk on eggshells because you are afraid your wife is going to leave you. You don’t have to be afraid about your kids making bad choices. You don’t have to be fat, or tired all of the time. All of those things can be fixed – but all of those things will require you to change. And change doesn’t happen overnight, and it doesn’t happen just because you say it will.
It starts with aligning your head and your heart with your destination, and it finishes when you fulfill your commitment. If you want to lose weight, you can lose it – but if you don’t commit to changes for the rest of your life you’re going to be in the same place you are now. You can resolve to be a better husband, but if you fall back into the same patterns of behavior, you’ll find yourself in the doghouse again.
It’s not just about changing behavior, it’s about changing your lifestyle.
That starts in your mind, and flows out from there – but change requires commitment, or you will always return to your old self by default.
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Why “the REAL secret?”
Simple.
I am personally fed up with “new age” philosophy copying Jesus and stealing/tricking/slandering the real truth from a mass majority of people.
The premise from the best seller, “the Secret” is that you can ask the UNIVERSE for manifestation through the Law of Attraction.
Is that all wrong? Perhaps the concept is not?
But the beneficiaries are completely different.
The world didnt make itself – God did.
Why thank God’s creation when you have an open door to speak to God and ask him for his goodness?
Well, because God might not grant it – WRONG! He said he would – but of course critics already knew that, right?
It is time to come back to the REAL source! GOD! My hearts desire is for the Lord to be magnified! For him to get the rightful praise and honor he deserves – one fit for a king!
Jesus is more than capable to give you your hearts desires. God is so much bigger than what you are asking for.
Ask – Believe and RECEIVE it through the REAL source – the REAL secret – God himself!
Learn what the HOLY scriptures have to say.
Claim them for you – because the message was for all!
Realize – What Jesus did before – he will do again and again.
God isn’t a liar – he is waiting for you to claim your rightful inheritance!
Download the free copy of the book by clicking on the book cover – you will be glad that you did!
My best
Andrew Wright
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Josh’s book explores the 12 pillars of masculinity as he sees them, with wit, humility, and challenging insights.
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“This excellent author has provided this book for the reading of us all, but primarily for men to read. From teenagers to older men, single or married, the 12 pillars are helpful guidelines containing powerful words to encourage growth. Josh Hatcher offers great advice and encouragement. Recent graduates, a new groom, a man recovering from poor choices or addiction, ANY man, would benefit from Manlihood: The 12 Pillars of Masculinity.”
“In this book, Joshua Hatcher explores manhood in its purest sense and helps his readers discover what it truly means to be a man in today’s society. Though geared toward men, women can benefit greatly from Mr. Hatcher’s book as well, as it will help them to not only recognize true men and raise them one day, but apply these things to their own lives. Josh combines timeless wisdom with smart social commentary and fresh takes on old ideas, creating this inspiring and exciting masterpiece. I highly recommend reading this book, no matter your age, gender, social standing–whatever the case may be–as it will revolutionize your ideas of manhood and possibly even what it means to be an ethical and wise human being.”
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3 Tips to a Better Conversation
There are so many different ways to enter a conversation and start a conversation with someone you want to speak with that the options are unlimited. This shouldnt make you feel hopeless, but hopeful!
Conversations can go so many different ways, but you can steer them to go in a positive direction – and ultimately a direction that BENEFITS you, not hurt you.
Here are 3 Tips in starting a conversation with ANYONE of any sex, race, and creed.
1. Have an opener ready for the given situation
An opener? What is that?
An opener is a simple way that you are going to enter the conversation that displays you have social confidence and that there is a bit of intelligence behind the curtain – that someone “is at home” so to speak.
Some are doing this without even knowing what they are doing. My wife will do it all the time when we are out at the store. She is so good at talking to random strangers. She will see someone in the medical aisle, use the OBSERVATION approach (without knowing what she is going) and say something like “Oh, my son just had a cold and it works fantastic! Are your little ones getting this cold too?” Bam – my wife is locked for the next 15-20 minutes. What did she do besides the observation opener? Read number 2.
2. Quickly make the conversation/question about them
At this phase of the conversation, now is not the time to be asking questions that will get one word answers. Those come off as awkward and will create dead space. Dead space = bad. Dead space shows you lack social status and you are TRYING to hard. Having them talk about themselves transitions that. What is really funny was when I was working this stuff out, I would ask a one word answer question, then try to follow it up with an observational question to TRY to get them talking – forget it! You will lose interest almost immediately with one word answer type questions.
Want to be the best conversationalist? Learn how to get someone to talk about themselves.
3. Listen and Respond.
There was some truth about dating, relationships, and conversations that you could have taken away from the Will Smith movie, HITCH. That is when you are engaging in a conversation “listen and respond.” I know that sounds so simple, but it is so hard to do. Listen to what they are saying in the conversation, then respond intellegently, sarcastically, or intrigued. You can really demonstrate your personality in your responses as well. Getting them to laugh will draw instant likability as well. Dont be afraid to share your emotions about a certain topic – mirror them to see what is going to be appropriate – if they are sad – respond/mirror with sympathy. If they are excited – be excited! Mirroring is highly effective and will definitely help you increase your likability in your conversation.
3.5 Have fun.
This one goes along with anything you are working on within yourself – Have fun – for goodness sake have fun, would ya? Lighten up. You get shot down, or it feels awkward – turn and smile – even laugh about a fail. Tell your friends and if they dont pick on you about it – make new friends that will laugh WITH you. Go out and have some fun – this world is too big to be serious all the time.
Until next time!
Andrew G. Wright Sr.
You can get more helpful tips from Andrew in his book, “How To Talk To Anyone!” Andrew shares his wisdom of conversations that he has learned while in the field of life. Struggling with a disability, Andrew had to pay extra attention to conversations and social metrics – if anyone can help you with social anxiety and talking with others – Andrew can.
Back on the Diamond. (FREE CHAPTER INCLUDED)
Hey fella’s.
I’m not sure if you have ever done something as a kid that you loved so much – only to grow older and not do it anymore. Now that you don’t do it anymore, you look back and see that you REALLY miss it and want to do it again so bad if you had the resources to.
For me, that was baseball – taking the mound of a competitive baseball game to be exact.
Well, I recently wrote a post on my page that I wanted to share with you folks here.
I was, and still am a baseball nut.
I love this game. I grew up to love the game – I grew up to play the game effectively – and I grew to be pretty darn good at it.
I recently joined the Bradford Badgers. It felt absolutely to amazing to be a part of the game once again.
Hearing the “pop” of the gloves. The “clank” of the bat. It was just baseball again.
Looking back over my life, I just can not BELIEVE that I lost something I love because of no self-esteem. You see when I was in high school, it was a transition phase for me. It was a phase where insecurities are always high, but for me – it was a bit more dramatic (at least in my head).
My freshmen year, I was told that I would be wearing hearing aids the rest of my life. If you thought eye glasses were tough to wear – try wearing hearing aids! Talk about a wake up call. I felt everyone was staring at my ears. I felt there were people trying to talk to me and I couldnt hear them. I felt completely overwhelmed and vulnerable.
I don’t blame my ears for much, but I will blame it for self-esteem issues. THEN I will blame myself for not battling through it. You see, if I had known THEN, what i know NOW – there is no doubt in my mind that I would have been able to play baseball in college – possibly semi-pro. Who knows? I will NEVER know because I let it slip. I stopped pushing. I stopped going 110%. I gave up on myself.
I realize how much i robbed myself – how much I robbed the game I loved so much. I say NEVER again will this happen in my life.
If you have done this – don’t let your self-esteem run you. RUN IT! Say NEVER AGAIN! You may not get the chance to take it back later in life..it might be too late.
At 31, my run to the big leagues is PROBABLY over – like, 1 in 1 Billion (SO YOUR SAYIN THERES A CHANCE!). I could be like THE ROOKIE and get a shot at the bigs…who knows where God is leading (HA! That would be awesome, but probably not again – there could be a ball club out there that would take someone that runs an 8.4 40 yard dash, right?. It could just be the Bradford Badgers and I am completely OK with that as well – I feel extremely blessed to have this opportunity. I get to play the game I love at a high level.
(Me breaking out of “retirement”)
For more on Self Esteem Help – check out this book below. I have included a chapter for you to read to see if it would be something you might be interested in. The link is also available by clicking the book cover.
Chapter 3 from Self Help 15: 15 ways You Can Instantly Improve Your Self Esteem
Being prepared to receive that you have been asking for is necessary for actually receiving it.
How does that work? It is a “faith without works is dead” type of thing.
You want to be more self-confident, you want to be attracting a more positive self so we need to prepare for the end state that you are trying to create.
You see the biggest mistake that is stuck on autopilot when you are in low self-esteem is that it is negative thinking and lack of positive reinforcements for future success. We might do well for a while, but later on we are EASILY sucked back into the negative self-image that we developed with low self-esteem.
The goal here is to start preparing for the better you to come through. This is a demonstration of faith on your part. Here are some ways you can prepare for that new you:
Clean up your act
I notice that when I want to set a new motion in gear, it always makes me feel better when I start by cleaning up my space at work, home and personal space that I have. Being organized and getting my act together always makes me feel instantly accomplished. An hours’ worth of work boosts my spirits, and my house, office, and personal spaces are clean.
The Mirror
Perhaps you haven’t wanted to even look in the mirror lately. It IS one of the most deceptive things in the universe when you are in a state of lacking self-esteem, however, we are setting in a new motion. From this day forward, that mirror will be cleaned and ready to work in your favor. You will be able to look straight into that mirror from this point forward and say – “that guy/gal in there is pretty freakin awesome!” Start your day today – and end it with a declaration right in that mirror.
Clear out your closet/dresser drawers
Make way for the new you. You are going to be working on your image and there might be some things you can get rid of. It’s time to cut ties with your over worn sweat pants, those socks with holes in them, the old track jacket from high school.
Let Go of the Past
Is there something from this period of your life that is just hanging around? Cut ties with it! Break up put you in this mess – BURN THE PICTURES and send the memories packing. Clear out your facebook.
Important message about this part. If you are cleaning out and burning things up – let it go. I say let it go because later on, when you least expect it, those memories or pictures may just magically show up again. You need to just move past it all together. Let this be a ceremony of just moving on. The burning up the past and moving forward. I can’t tell you how many times I did this for jobs, for old girlfriends, old friendships, and lost loved ones. It always worked. One last time to reflect, but it won’t affect my emotions any longer. I am bigger than that and stronger than the past. My future is so much brighter!
RESOURCE
Look into visualization programs like this one. Visualization programs like these have helped me to use my mind to “bring the kid out” again. When we were kids, we were able to visualize and “daydream.” Sometimes that is lost when we become older and the world shows us some different plans. Take some time to check out this incredible program to help you visualize for success and bring out the kid again.
Summer Reading List: Mud Sweat and Tears
Bear Grylls is a hero. We know him as a television survival expert with a cheerful attitude – but this book really identifies what Grylls really is- a difference maker.
This book and its companion auto-biography really help paint a picture of Grylls that we’ve not seen, but that we suspected was there all along.
Mud Sweat and Tears is filled with simple short chapters that can be read in a few minutes on the john. They are encouraging, challenging, and practical life lessons and proverbs to keep his readers on the right track.
The autobiography tells Bear’s story from his own perspective as a rowdy kid, a mountain climber, a british special forces soldier, and a husband and father. It’s moving, and encouraging. Read both the survival guide and the autobiography for best effect.
How God Blows Me Away – This Weekends Encounter!
Hey guys!
Just wanted to drop a line about something that occurred this weekend.
I had just completed a workout – more on this in the future 🙂 – and I decided to cool off outside. I sat in our swing in the back lawn when the motion light finally went out. I sat in the dark and gazed at the PERFECT night sky – no clouds, just twinkling stars.
I live right off a busy street, so its nice late at night because the cars stop driving by and its just complete – silence.
Now, here was the awesome part. I started thanking God for how amazing his beauty is when I was reminded by the Spirit of the Living God of a message I had heard YEARS ago.
The summary of that message, mainly because my memory can’t do the entire 40 minute message justice, was the God did not come to Moses in the storms to rescue him. God didn’t come during the celebrations, but God came in the SILENCE.
When we are fully silent, and at peace – that is when God comes. Why? Because you FINALLY are giving your undivided attention. It is FINALLY one-on-one!
He longs the relationship with you – he longs the TRUE feelings.
I was able to pour out my heart to him and what I had going on. Fortunately, we are in an excellent place – nothing to really complain about – so it was nice having one on one time with “daddy-o.”
Do you take “timeout” with God?
Are you looking at your surroundings and taking advantage of it? When was the last time you just saw something beautiful and stopped to say “wow, God! You created all this! Thank you for this perfect image?”
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The Best Summer Ever: Make a List
What if you could have the best summer ever? The kind of summer that your family or friends will remember for the rest of their lives! Want to make it happen? Of Course you do. This month, we’ll explore some things that will help make your summer the best ever.
For the past few years, we’ve done something exciting around our house. We make a “Summer Adventure List” and we list off all of the things that we want to do together.
For example:
See the Kinzua Bridge
Visit NYC
Swim at Willow Bay
Go Camping Three Times
Picnic with the Lowmans
Hike Through Abandoned Rail Tunnel
Eat a Wild Animal
Jump off a Bridge
Play Softball Game With Friends
Visit the Coudersport Ice Mine
This of course, is an abbreviated version of our list. And sometimes, we get to cross them all of, and sometimes we don’t!
Look for local attractions that are free or low cost – museums, parks, swimming holes, BBQ joints. Don’t be afraid to put something ambitious that might cost a little more and require a little advanced planning and saving. Make sure to include people that you want to connect with!
Think of it like a “Bucket List” – but the shelf-life on this is three months.
Add the little AND the big things that you want to accomplish, and start planning!
Don’t be afraid if you can’t check them all off. But having a list helps get you excited about the summer, and allows you to make a plan.
The Best Summer Ever: Make a List
What if you could have the best summer ever? The kind of summer that your family or friends will remember for the rest of their lives! Want to make it happen? Of Course you do. This month, we’ll explore some things that will help make your summer the best ever.
For the past few years, we’ve done something exciting around our house. We make a “Summer Adventure List” and we list off all of the things that we want to do together.
For example:
See the Kinzua Bridge
Visit NYC
Swim at Willow Bay
Go Camping Three Times
Picnic with the Lowmans
Hike Through Abandoned Rail Tunnel
Eat a Wild Animal
Jump off a Bridge
Play Softball Game With Friends
Visit the Coudersport Ice Mine
This of course, is an abbreviated version of our list. And sometimes, we get to cross them all of, and sometimes we don’t!
Look for local attractions that are free or low cost – museums, parks, swimming holes, BBQ joints. Don’t be afraid to put something ambitious that might cost a little more and require a little advanced planning and saving. Make sure to include people that you want to connect with!
Think of it like a “Bucket List” – but the shelf-life on this is three months.
Add the little AND the big things that you want to accomplish, and start planning!
Don’t be afraid if you can’t check them all off. But having a list helps get you excited about the summer, and allows you to make a plan.