John F. Kennedy – #ManCrushMonday
The courage of life is often a less dramatic spectacle than the courage of a final moment; but it is no less a magnificent mixture of triumph and tragedy. ~ John F. Kennedy
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Facebook Drama is for Girls: Stop complaining about your relationships
People use social media like they should use a private journal. Airing things out on the line that should never be expressed publicly. Men shouldn’t do this. Facebook Drama is for girls.
Whether it be your romantic relationships, friendships, or family relationships – griping about these online are not going to make the problems that you have better. It might make you feel better to vent – but it doesn’t make the situation better.
I have heard men gripe about their children on facebook – and I have to ask – what happens in ten years when that kid gets a facebook account, and looks back through his dad’s old posts? Ouch!
What about the damage that can be done by airing things that should be in private to the rest of the world?
Man up. Deal with your relationship issues privately and with the person that needs to hear it. Do you NEED to talk to someone else about the situation? If you do – do that privately and in real life as well.
Tune in next week when we address: Stop Arguing about Stupid Stuff
George S. Patton – #ManCrushMonday
“Anyone in any walk of life who is content with mediocrity is untrue to himself and to American tradition.” George S. Patton Jr.
Facebook Drama is for Girls: Stop complaining about your job
People use social media like they should use a private journal. Airing things out on the line that should never be expressed publicly. Men shouldn’t do this. Facebook Drama is for girls.
Okay – that’s not fair. Girls shouldn’t do it either. But I’ll tell you this – it’s probably one of the least manly things a guy could do.
Let me encourage you NOT to complain about your job on facebook. Why? Because it WILL get back to your boss. If it doesn’t – keep in mind that most people get jobs from people they know. If your complaining is heard by Joe Schmoe – he’s not going to hire you if you ever want a job with him – because he knows you are a complainer!
If you have an issue with your job – fix it. Have a conversation with your boss, with your coworkers. Fix the problems that you can – and learn to DEAL WITH the problems you can’t fix. I can guarantee you complaining about it on a public forum will not fix it – or help you deal with it.
Facebook may be full of people venting their feelings – but it needs one less. You.
Tune in next week when we address: Stop complaining about your relationships
Randy Alcorn – #ManCrushMonday
“it’s my responsibility to cultivate the man in my son. I can’t be passive about that.” _ Randy Alcorn, Courageous
Jack Kerouac – #ManCrushMonday
“What is that feeling when you’re driving away from people and they recede on the plain till you see their specks dispersing? – it’s the too-huge world vaulting us, and it’s good-bye. But we lean forward to the next crazy venture beneath the skies.” _ Jack Kerouac, On the Road
Chuck Norris – #ManCrushMonday
“Men are like steel. When they lose their temper, they lose their worth.” _ Chuck Norris
Mark Twain – #ManCrushMonday
In the beginning of a change, the patriot is a scarce man, and brave, and hated and scorned. When his cause succeeds, the timid join him, for then it costs nothing to be a patriot. ~Mark Twain, Notebook, 1935
What boys do… Part 4 – Run their mouths #boys2men
Remember that 90’s RnB Group Boys II Men? Yeah. They were great. That has nothing to do with what we’re talking about though. What we’re talking about is common behaviors that should have died off when a boy became a man.
Today we’re going to talk about RUNNING YOUR MOUTH.
Loose lips sink ships. This is not only true about accidentally spilling government secrets – but about the power of talking too much.
I think the key to keeping our speech at a minimum is learning to T.H.I.N.K. before we speak!
T – is it True?
H – is it Helpful?
I – is it Inspiring?
N – is it Necessary?
K – is it Kind?
So often, the speaking we do can tear people down, not build them up. It can reveal more details than we should. It can create an image in the minds of others about us that push them away from us. It can create self-defeat, by establishing a negative attitude in ourselves!
Boys don’t think before they speak. Men carefully use their words to bring life.
What boys do… Part 3 – Waste Time #boys2men
Remember that 90’s RnB Group Boys II Men? Yeah. They were great. That has nothing to do with what we’re talking about though. What we’re talking about is common behaviors that should have died off when a boy became a man.
This week we’re going to talk about WASTING TIME.
When we are young – time seems to move slower. My friend Mike McAvoy says that life is like a roll of toilet paper – and it goes faster the closer you get to the end of the roll. Now – Mike is a preacher, not a physicist – but it seems to make sense enough to me.
There is nothing wrong with boys who spend their vast amount of slow-moving time tossing baseballs around, or playing cops and robbers, or building with plastic blocks, or catching fish.
But when a boy becomes a man – and his time starts to move faster – his time becomes currency. And a man uses his currency and his time wisely.
Does that mean he abandons all leisure pursuits? Certainly not! It’s perfectly acceptable for a man to sit on a shore with a hook in the water, waiting for a fish.
But what it does mean is that he is intentional with his time. Every minute spent is used for a greater purpose. Leisure is not about wasting time – but rather about recharging yourself spiritually, physically and mentally. We use our leisure as an investment in ourselves and in our families.
If we make it a point to manage our time, we find ourselves less stressed, and more productive.
Here are some time management resources:
http://lifehacker.com/tag/time-management
http://www.studygs.net/timman.htm
Boys waste time. Men use their time wisely, and invest it as currency.
Tune in next week for Part 4 of “What Boys Do…” – Run their mouths.