George S. Patton – #ManCrushMonday
“Anyone in any walk of life who is content with mediocrity is untrue to himself and to American tradition.” George S. Patton Jr.
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Facebook Drama is for Girls: Stop complaining about your job
People use social media like they should use a private journal. Airing things out on the line that should never be expressed publicly. Men shouldn’t do this. Facebook Drama is for girls.
Okay – that’s not fair. Girls shouldn’t do it either. But I’ll tell you this – it’s probably one of the least manly things a guy could do.
Let me encourage you NOT to complain about your job on facebook. Why? Because it WILL get back to your boss. If it doesn’t – keep in mind that most people get jobs from people they know. If your complaining is heard by Joe Schmoe – he’s not going to hire you if you ever want a job with him – because he knows you are a complainer!
If you have an issue with your job – fix it. Have a conversation with your boss, with your coworkers. Fix the problems that you can – and learn to DEAL WITH the problems you can’t fix. I can guarantee you complaining about it on a public forum will not fix it – or help you deal with it.
Facebook may be full of people venting their feelings – but it needs one less. You.
Tune in next week when we address: Stop complaining about your relationships
Randy Alcorn – #ManCrushMonday
“it’s my responsibility to cultivate the man in my son. I can’t be passive about that.” _ Randy Alcorn, Courageous
Jack Kerouac – #ManCrushMonday
“What is that feeling when you’re driving away from people and they recede on the plain till you see their specks dispersing? – it’s the too-huge world vaulting us, and it’s good-bye. But we lean forward to the next crazy venture beneath the skies.” _ Jack Kerouac, On the Road
Chuck Norris – #ManCrushMonday
“Men are like steel. When they lose their temper, they lose their worth.” _ Chuck Norris
Mark Twain – #ManCrushMonday
In the beginning of a change, the patriot is a scarce man, and brave, and hated and scorned. When his cause succeeds, the timid join him, for then it costs nothing to be a patriot. ~Mark Twain, Notebook, 1935
What boys do… Part 4 – Run their mouths #boys2men
Remember that 90’s RnB Group Boys II Men? Yeah. They were great. That has nothing to do with what we’re talking about though. What we’re talking about is common behaviors that should have died off when a boy became a man.
Today we’re going to talk about RUNNING YOUR MOUTH.
Loose lips sink ships. This is not only true about accidentally spilling government secrets – but about the power of talking too much.
I think the key to keeping our speech at a minimum is learning to T.H.I.N.K. before we speak!
T – is it True?
H – is it Helpful?
I – is it Inspiring?
N – is it Necessary?
K – is it Kind?
So often, the speaking we do can tear people down, not build them up. It can reveal more details than we should. It can create an image in the minds of others about us that push them away from us. It can create self-defeat, by establishing a negative attitude in ourselves!
Boys don’t think before they speak. Men carefully use their words to bring life.
What boys do… Part 3 – Waste Time #boys2men
Remember that 90’s RnB Group Boys II Men? Yeah. They were great. That has nothing to do with what we’re talking about though. What we’re talking about is common behaviors that should have died off when a boy became a man.
This week we’re going to talk about WASTING TIME.
When we are young – time seems to move slower. My friend Mike McAvoy says that life is like a roll of toilet paper – and it goes faster the closer you get to the end of the roll. Now – Mike is a preacher, not a physicist – but it seems to make sense enough to me.
There is nothing wrong with boys who spend their vast amount of slow-moving time tossing baseballs around, or playing cops and robbers, or building with plastic blocks, or catching fish.
But when a boy becomes a man – and his time starts to move faster – his time becomes currency. And a man uses his currency and his time wisely.
Does that mean he abandons all leisure pursuits? Certainly not! It’s perfectly acceptable for a man to sit on a shore with a hook in the water, waiting for a fish.
But what it does mean is that he is intentional with his time. Every minute spent is used for a greater purpose. Leisure is not about wasting time – but rather about recharging yourself spiritually, physically and mentally. We use our leisure as an investment in ourselves and in our families.
If we make it a point to manage our time, we find ourselves less stressed, and more productive.
Here are some time management resources:
http://lifehacker.com/tag/time-management
http://www.studygs.net/timman.htm
Boys waste time. Men use their time wisely, and invest it as currency.
Tune in next week for Part 4 of “What Boys Do…” – Run their mouths.
The Value of Hard Work
This article is directed toward young men. Do you know what hard work is? Or what it means? Too many people nowadays don’t realize how important it is. If you expect things to get handed to you, you are in for a very difficult life. And if you have that entitled mindset, you will be severely disappointed and will waste several years of your life wondering why you haven’t been successful.
There are three types of people in this world: those who make things happen; those who watch things happen; and those who say “What happened?” There are those who create the path, those who walk the path that was already paved, and those who sit around and never see a path. There is no substitute for hard work. You need to have confidence in yourself and you can’t be afraid to fail. Every failure gets you one step closer to success. Michael Jordan, the great NBA star, always said, “The reason I have been so successful is because I have failed so many times.” Don’t be afraid of failure. Have a dream, and get out there, work your butt off, and make that dream come true no matter what.
Everybody has a gift. You may not know what it is yet, but you have one. Your gift is the thing you do best with the least amount of effort. What are you passionate about? Whatever it is, get out there and work as hard as you can possibly work and do not let anybody’s opinion about you or your dream stop you. You can do anything you put your mind to. You just have to believe and keep working and working. Make sure you NEVER make excuses. They are a sign of weakness. Take responsibility for your actions and continually strive to be the best you are capable of becoming. You can do it, but you have to work your butt off to do it. Are you willing to work harder than you ever worked before to become who you want to be? That’s a question you need to seriously consider because if you aren’t willing to put in the work, you won’t get the results you are looking for.
What boys do… Part 2 – Fight #boys2men
Remember that 90’s RnB Group Boys II Men? Yeah. They were great. That has nothing to do with what we’re talking about though. What we’re talking about is common behaviors that should have died off when a boy became a man.
This week we’re talking about FIGHTING.
Certainly – there is a time and a place for that glorious moment that a bully or a tyrant receive a blow to the nose. I firmly believe that when people say, “Violence is never the answer” they forget that there are things worth fighting for – and there are people who need to be corrected with physical force.
But we’re not talking about fighting for a greater purpose. We’re talking about the schoolyard scrapping, and drunken brawls, and incessant need to win every argument – whether by force or sheer ego.
Many times people fight for the sake of proving their strength. Real men do not need such victories to define their worth.
If I’m minding my own business, and a man physically assaults me, I’m going to defend myself, and I’m going to do what it takes to win. But fighting and arguing and winning should never be what drives me, or motivates me.
A man should be secure enough in his self and in his own strength that he doesn’t need to pick fights and push his way to the top.
When I was a boy – I had to fight almost every day. I was bullied and pushed around. There were times when my fights were to protect myself, and times when my fights were to prove myself. I wish that I could have understood that I didn’t need to prove myself with my fists… or for that matter, with my arguments.
The truth is – you can be right, and you can be better than everyone else in the room, without it mattering whether or not everyone knows it.
Boys fight to prove their worth. Men know their worth, and only fight to protect and defend.
Tune in next week for Part 3 of “What Boys Do…” – Waste Time