Norah Mirnerny: “For some, the deadly virus and its upheaval constituted the “first big thing they’d ever been through.” Meanwhile, McInerny and others whose lives had been shaped by grief, loss or tragedy had long known that “life is fragile and our pace in this modern world is untenable.”
Nora McInerny: I want my work to lower the bar for people. We have so much intense pressure to achieve and to perform in the face of all the suffering and struggle of modern life. You do not have to do anything other than just be a decent person and survive.
An Iranian hermit known as “the world’s dirtiest man” has died at the ripe age of 94, just months after taking his first wash in decades, Iranian state media announced.
“Amu Haji” – Uncle Haji – as he was referred to, died on Sunday in Dezhgah, a village in the country’s southern province of Fars, state news agency IRNA reported.
According to the region’s district head, Haji had for decades avoided fresh food and believed that “if he cleans himself, he will get sick,” the agency reported.
Sports Rivalry and Loyalty
The Fight Club panel also talks about sports, and the fan loyalty that turns into rivalry between friends and family.
Bullying
Bullying is also on the agenda, and the group discusses the way to end bullying.
When I was growing up, even in the feminism soaked 1980’s – the word “patriarch” had a sense of honor about it. I saw my father as the leader of our home. I saw the men that signed the Declaration of Independence as the “founding fathers” of our nation. The word “patriarch” was used to describe the biblical heroes like Abraham, Jacob, Moses, and Joseph.
But if you hear the word today, it’s almost always surrounded in negativity, and sometimes outright hatred.
What if we could reclaim the word patriarch?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C7cZp5B0ltU
Patriarchy isn’t a bad word
This is a common thing these days, for a word to change in its connotation and its definition – to become a bad thing.
By definition, patriarchy is about the leadership of a father.
Over time, that definition has morphed to also imply the exclusion of females.
I understand that culturally, it may seem unfair that the father’s name is passed down, or that there tend to be more males in positions of leadership. I also understand that sometimes men step into a role of privilege and they do exclude women.
I think though, that the response to patriarchy being express poorly is to toss it all out. To tear down male leadership because some people do it wrong.
Leadership can be shared
In my home, I lead. My wife leads. We lead together. We have patriarchy and matriarchy.
Don’t allow yourself to be browbeat
I actually think that Critical Theory, and Communist philosophy has a lot to do with the driving factors of this amplified version of feminism. It believes in tearing down power structures. However, it doesn’t offer a good solution for the power vacuum created.
The truth is, men don’t have to be knocked down a peg in order to level the playing field.
Men do need to make room for women. But that doesn’t mean we can’t lead too. It means we BOTH need to respect each other.
Don’t allow the media, social media, or anyone else to browbeat you into thinking that you cannot or should not lead just because you are a male. That’s the exact same philosophy they claim to be fighting against!
It’s about responsibility, not privilege
The thing about leadership that most people don’t understand – is that it is NOT about privilege. A father leading his family doesn’t mean he gets to eat first at the dinner table because he’s the king… it means he’s the one making sure his family eats.
Leadership is about responsibility and service. Patriarchy is about responsibility and service.
At Manlihood, we’re curating chunks of manly wisdom for you. If you’re like a lot of men, you may find yourself short on time for reading long books to look for wisdom that you can apply to your life…. We’re offering you the Campbell’s Soup version… the best quotes and insights to help inspire you to be an even better man.
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“Every man has his secret sorrows which the world knows not; and often times we call a man cold when he is only sad.” ― Henry Wadsworth Longfellow
“I found that with depression, one of the most important things you can realize is that you’re not alone. You’re not the first to go through it, you’re not gonna be the last to go through it,” — Dwayne “The Rock” Johnson
“Anything that’s human is mentionable, and anything that is mentionable can be more manageable. When we can talk about our feelings, they become less overwhelming, less upsetting, and less scary.”
— Fred Rogers
“We’re all human. People are often afraid to admit difficulties, but I don’t believe that there should be a struggle with anything that’s the truth. If you were a guy, you used to have to be really masculine, but now expressing emotion is accepted and respected.”
– Zayn Malik
“There is hope, even when your brain tells you there isn’t.” ― John Green
“If we start being honest about our pain, our anger, and our shortcomings instead of pretending they don’t exist, then maybe we’ll leave the world a better place than we found it.”
– Russell Wilson
“Mental health problems don’t define who you are. They are something you experience. You walk in the rain and you feel the rain, but, importantly, YOU ARE NOT THE RAIN.” — Matt Haig
“My dark days made me stronger. Or maybe I already was strong, and they made me prove it.” –Emery Lord
“But no matter how much evil I see, I think it’s important for everyone to understand that there is much more light than darkness.” ― Robert Uttaro
“Be patient and tough; some day this pain will be useful to you.” — Ovid
“There is a crack in everything, that’s how the light gets in” ― Leonard Cohen
“Not until we are lost do we begin to understand ourselves” ― Henry David Thoreau
“Sometimes you climb out of bed in the morning and you think, I’m not going to make it, but you laugh inside — remembering all the times you’ve felt that way.” — Charles Bukowski
“Promise me you’ll always remember — you’re braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.” — A.A. Milne via Christopher Robin from Winnie the Pooh
“In the middle of winter I at last discovered that there was in me an invincible summer.” — Albert Camus
“If you’re going through hell, keep going.” — Winston Churchill
“Change what you can, manage what you can’t.” ― Raymond McCauley
“If you have been brutally broken but still have the courage to be gentle to other living beings, then you’re a badass with a heart of an angel.” — Keanu Reeves
“There isn’t anybody out there who doesn’t have a mental health issue, whether it’s depression, anxiety, or how to cope with relationships. Having OCD is not an embarrassment anymore – for me. Just know that there is help and your life could be better if you go out and seek the help.” — Howie Mandel
“Being able to be your true self is one of the strongest components of good mental health.” — Dr. Lauren Fogel Mersy
“In any given moment, we have two options: to step forward into growth or to step back into safety.” — Abraham Maslow
“You don’t need to find a lesson in your trauma.” — Jordan Pickell, MCP RCC
“Two things can be true. You can love your family and have deep wounds as a result of your family experiences.” — Nedra Glover Tawwab
“Your illness is not your identity. Your chemistry is not your character.” — Rick Warren
Author and Coach GS Youngblood talks with Josh Hatcher on the Manlihood ManCast about how a man can have a better relationship with his partner by better understanding what it means to be a man.
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The Masculine Core
Every relationship has the potential for great personal turmoil. As men, we’ve got a responsibility to set the tone and temperature, but we often find ourselves reacting or overreacting.
GS Youngblood helps men in relationships to love and lead from their masculine core.
Relationship Coaching
GS Youngblood helps men to evaluate their relationships, and to find the calm and centered place to respond to the sometimes contentious or toxic criticism and frustrations that arise.
If you want to be more powerful in your relationship, less of a pleaser or Nice Guy… he gives practical tips for reclaiming and repairing that relationship.
It can get better
The first step in fixing a struggling relationship is in accepting the simple belief that it can get better.
Embodiment
GS Youngblood teaches some basic exercises that get you “out of your head” and into your body. It grounds your thinking to the moment you are in, rather than rustling through the hurts of the past or worrying and fretting about the future.
The word “cuck” is an abbreviation of the word “cuckold”.
It refers to a man who has been spurned by his woman because of his weakness as she pursues a sexual relationship from a stronger man.
It’s become an internet insult, and it definitely sounds like a very dirty word – whether it’s officially a “cuss word” or not – it’s certainly a word that no man wants to be called, and it describes a position in which no man wants to be.
Men often go out of their way to get the girl. Then they get the girl and they give up.
Improving yourself, working on becoming a better, stronger man will make you measurably more attractive.
Meet her needs
Your spouse is looking for someone to meet her needs – physically, emotionally, spiritually.
Commit together to guard your family
Affairs don’t happen overnight.
Work together to draw your boundaries, and then enforce those boundaries without jealousy and with trust.
Fight Like Hell
I’ve been using the phrase a lot lately. You need to fight like hell to create the kind of marriage that overcomes temptation, that is full of love and respect, that is fiercely guarded and protected, and that is not full of dangerous fault lines and volcanic eruptions.
Today, September 30, is International Podcast Day! Today at Manlihood, we thought it would be a great opportunity to celebrate our podcast for men.
International Podcast Day™ is September 30th and is an international celebration of the power of podcasts.
In 2004, Adam Curry and Dave Winer were credited for the invention of podcasting. It wasn’t until Ben Hammersly wrote about the online audio shows in the Guardian newspaper that the term “podcasting” was coined.
It’s been almost 20 years since then, and we now have 2.4 million podcasts with 66 million episodes globally. There are more podcasts than anyone could ever listen to!
The Manosphere
Blogs centered around personal development for men have been around for quite awhile, but one of the more earth-shaking moments in the manosphere was the birth of The Art of Manliness Podcast in 2009.
In 2013, I sent an email to a handful of men that I respected, and pitched an idea. I wanted to make a website to equip, educate, entertain, and engage men to be better husbands, fathers, and leaders. The men had some great feedback. My hope was that I had just created a superhero team to build this crazy thing, only to find out, that most of them never really got involved.
At first, I was dissapointed, but one of them told me, “Josh, this is YOUR thing. We’re behind you, and we support you. But this is YOUR dream. YOU are the guy that needs to do it.”
And so I did.
Testing 1.2.3.
My first real job was at WFRM Radio in Coudersport, PA at 14 years old. I was running the board for Pittsburgh Pirates games, DJ’ing and announcing on Saturday mornings, recording commercials, and having the time of my life. I went to college for communications, with a broadcasting specialty, spinning plenty of Christian records on the campus radio station. I went on to work at a few more radio stations, as a news director, a DJ, a talk show-host.
Way before all of that, I used to play with a tape recorder, making my own DJ’d mix tapes. Most people hate the sound of their own voice when they hear it played back. I’ve been listening to mine for so long, I’m usually not bothered by how I sound, and I’ve developed the voice and production skills to be able to use it to make a living at various points in my life.
The Birth of the Manlihood ManCast
I always knew I wanted to build the blog into a podcast. But I hesitated for a long time. Part of me was afraid that I was going to be sending it out into the void. Why would anyone listen? Why invest the time, energy, and emotion into something for 20 people?
After listening to other podcasts, I kept telling myself- You can do that. You have all of the skills, the knowledge, the wisdom to create that.
But it was hard to pull the trigger. Self-doubt kept plaguing me.
I was stuck in this place where I knew I could start it, but I didn’t want to fail. I wasn’t quite ready, I didn’t know what would work, or what listeners wanted to hear. I had a plan, but it was just ideas and lots of scrawled notes in a journal, and nothing concrete.
I had a conversation online with Ryan Michler, and he said, “Start before you are ready.”
And that wisdom made a lot of sense. Just do it, and you can work out the details later. You can fix what isn’t working when you actually do something other than thinking and dreaming.
So we decided to get started by recycling some of our blog content into episodes. If you scroll back on your podcast app to the earliest episodes, you’ll see that the Manlihood ManCast then definitely isn’t what it is now! But I started.
Podcasting is important to me. This is the entrance into people’s hearts and minds as I do the mission I’ve been called to do.
What is it that drives Manlihood? Our Purpose, Mission, Vision, and Values.
Purpose:
Because the world needs men to lead in their families and communities, and because so many men have struggled to understand their value, Manlihood exists to help men become better men.
Mission:
The Manlihood Mission is to Educate, Equip, and Entertain Men in an Engaging Way.
Vision:
The Manlihood vision is to create resources to educate and equip men, to foster a thriving community of men, where bonds of brotherhood and accountability form. We seek to help men be better fathers, husbands, leaders, friends. We want to build through Manlihood a financially sustainable architecture that can support itself, but also to incubate ideas and opportunities from within the Manlihood community that support our purpose and mission.
Values:
Men matter.
Family matters.
Integrity and Honor matter.
Personal Responsibility matters. (If it is to be, it’s up to me.)
Men thrive and grow in community and brotherhood with each other.
Truth is everywhere. Wisdom knows how to pick it out.
Men should value and respect women. (People should respect people.)
Perseverance, Self-control and Self-discipline are sacred and essential.
Words are powerful, and how we use them matters.
Leadership is steeped in influence and responsibility. (Everyone is a leader, and everyone should embrace and nurture that role.)
Alonzo talks with Manlihood about the traditional values he believes in, and how it matters that men work to live by and preserve those values.
Leadership matters
“When we promote leaders, we typically promote based on skills other than leadership and this creates dysfunctional organizations. Leadership is a skill that can be learned and my simple and effective method can improve your team quickly.” – Alonzo Pettigrew
Welcome to the Manlihood Podcast Roundup of the episodes that I’ve enjoyed this past month.
Not only do I host my own podcast here at Manlihood, but I listen to a lot of podcasts. This month has been a killer month in terms of great content that has been released into the podcast realm. Please give these episodes a listen!
In this episode, mental health expert John Delony talks to callers about a few topic, the first one is in particular relevance to many men. He talks to a man struggling to come to terms with his trauma, and the way he’s been treating his family and himself. This is a must listen! Check it out!
Order of Man: Ed Mylett – the Power of One More
Ryan Michler’s Order of Man Podcast is one of my favorites for many reasons, including interviews like this one.
Ed Mylett is an entrepreneur, global speaker, and hosts the #1 rated business podcast on iTunes.
Order of Man: Rebuild and Remake Yourself
In this replay of an older episode, Ryan gets emotional as he talks about his family grieving the loss of their family dog.
It’s a little unusual, as Ryan’s typical stoic delivery is not emotionless, but usually not as emotional and real as he gets in this episode.
The advice he gives is amazing, though, and it’s worth a listen.
Ryan Michler is a husband, father, Iraq Combat Veteran, and the founder of Order of Man. Ryan was raised without a permanent father figure and has seen first-hand how a lack of strong, ambitious, self-sufficient men has negatively impacted society. He believes many of the world’s most complicated and challenging problems could be resolved if men dedicated themselves to becoming more capable husbands, fathers, businessmen, and community leaders.
Smart Passive Income Podcast with Pat Flynn: Rewire your Mind for Growth with Natasha Graziano
Natasha Graziano
Natasha Graziano was homeless, staying in a hostel with her son, and working as an online “camgirl” to survive. But something happened that changed her life forever, as a stranger asked her to sponsor a child.
She tells her story to Pat Flynn on the Smart Passive Income Podcast, and the power of her experience could change your life.
She may not be a man, but her story speaks very boldly to all of us, men included.
REAL ONES with Jon Bernthal : Shia LaBeouf
Jon Bernthal is an actor. He plays the Punisher on the Marvel television series. In this episode, he interviews fellow actor (they both started in the war flick FURY) Shia LaBeouf.
Shia, who started out as a child star on the Disney Channel, has been known for his wild man persona and a number of high profile scandals in the past several years.
This conversation may be riddled with some rough language, so if that kind of thing is offensive to you, you may not be able to hear what is a raw and heartfelt conversation about recovery, about making amends, about a man finding his faith, and about a man seeking redemption.
This episode is a very intellectual interview with an atheist and an orthodox christian exploring the nature of morality.
It’s not often that people have conversations like this without it descending into insults, or monkey-like poo-slinging. This conversation is enlightening and interesting – although it’s a bit “heady” – I enjoy listening to the philosophical reasonings of these men.
I’ve never understood why Jordan B. Peterson is such a controversial figure. To me, he’s a reasonable man who wants to explore the nature of truth. He’s intelligent and interesting, and while he’s unyielding on many principles, he seems like a kind man who just wants make people think and live better lives.
Regardless, this episode is very intriguing and worth a listen.
I hope you enjoy these episodes! While you’re at it – make sure to give the Manlihood ManCast a spin at your favorite podcast platform!
At Manlihood, we’re curating manly chunks of wisdom for you. If you’re like a lot of men, you may find yourself short on time for reading long books to look for wisdom that you can apply to your life…. We’re offering you the Campbell’s Soup version… the best quotes and insights to help inspire you to be an even better man.
Listen to the Manlihood ManCast – a podcast for men on Spotify | Apple Podcasts | Youtube or wherever you listen to podcasts.
Perseverance is a virtue that all men should strive for. To continue on through trial and hardship is at the very nature of manhood.
Everyone has been faced with the temptation to quit. Let’s dig our heels in, and press in for the victory that we all crave, together.
I’ve compiled a selection of some of the best nuggets of wisdom out there concerning perseverance from a variety of sources.
Perseverance Quotes
Courage doesn’t always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying ‘I will try again tomorrow.’
–Mary Anne Radmacher, American author and artist
Fall seven times and stand up eight.
–Japanese Proverb
It’s not that I’m so smart, it’s just that I stay with problems longer.
–Albert Einstein (1879-1955), physicist and developer of the theory of relativity
Failure is not the end
Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.
–Thomas Edison (1874-1931), inventor of the light bulb
Failure is only the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently.
–Henry Ford (1863-1947), founder of Ford Motor Company
A failure is not always a mistake. It may simply be the best one can do under the circumstances. The real mistake is to stop trying.
–B.F. Skinner (1904-1990), American psychologist
As I look back on my life, I realize that every time I thought I was being rejected from something good, I was actually being redirected to something better.
–Dr. Steve Maraboli, speaker and author
Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out.
–Robert Collier (1885-1950), American self-help author
Don’t ever quit
It does not matter how slowly you go so long as you do not stop.
–Confucius (551-479 BC), philosopher
Never confuse a single defeat with a final defeat.
–F. Scott Fitzgerald (1896-1940), American author
Perseverance is the hard work you do after you get tired of doing the hard work you already did.
–Newt Gingrich (1943- ), American politician, historian, and author
Perseverance is failing 19 times and succeeding the 20th.
–Julie Andrews (1935- ), English film and stage actress
Through perseverance many people win success out of what seemed destined to be certain failure.
–Benjamin Disraeli (1804-1881), British politician and writer
Success seems to be largely a matter of hanging on after others have let go.
–William Feather (1889-1981), American author
Develop success from failures. Discouragement and failure are two of the surest stepping stones to success.
–Dale Carnegie (1888-1955), world-renowned author and speaker
Failure is often that early morning hour of darkness which precedes the dawning of the day of success.
–Leigh Mitchell Hodges (1876-1954), journalist and poet
Make a way
We will either find a way or make one.
–Hannibal (247-182 BC), Carthaginian General
It always seems impossible until it’s done.
–Nelson Mandela (1918-2013), South African anti-apartheid leader
The best way out is always through.
–Robert Frost (1874-1963), American poet
A winner is just a loser who tried one more time.
–George M. Moore Jr. (1862-1940), Member U.S. House of Representatives
Defeat is not the worst of failures. Not to have tried is the true failure.
–George Edward Woodberry (1855-1930), American poet
Things are about to get better
When you get into a tight place and everything goes against you … never give up then, for that is just the place and time that the tide will turn.
–Harriet Beecher Stowe (1811-1896), American abolitionist and author
The man who moves a mountain begins by carrying away small stones.
–Confucius (551-479 BC), philosopher
I am a slow walker, but I never walk back.
–Abraham Lincoln (1809-1865), 16th President of the United States
Every strike brings me closer to the next home run.
–Babe Ruth (1895-1948), baseball legend
Courage is not having the strength to go on; it is going on when you don’t have the strength.
–Theodore Roosevelt (1858-1919), 26th President of the United States
Character consists of what you do on the third and fourth tries.
–James A. Michener (1907-1997), American author
Perseverance is not a long race; it is many short races one after the other.
–Walter Elliot (1888-1958), Scottish politician
The only courage that matters is the kind that gets you from one moment to the next.
–Mignon McLaughlin (1913-1983), American journalist and author
Let me tell you the secret that has led to my goal. My strength lies solely in my tenacity.
–Louis Pasteur (1822-1895), scientist and inventor of the pasteurization process
Winston Churchill Quotes about Perseverance
Success is not final, failure is not fatal: It is the courage to continue that counts.
–Winston Churchill (1874-1965), former Prime Minister of the United Kingdom
“If you are going through hell, keep going.”
― Winston S. Churchill
“Rivers know this: there is no hurry. We shall get there some day.”
― A.A. Milne, Winnie-the-Pooh
“The brick walls are there for a reason. The brick walls are not there to keep us out. The brick walls are there to give us a chance to show how badly we want something. Because the brick walls are there to stop the people who don’t want it badly enough. They’re there to stop the other people.”
― Randy Pausch, The Last Lecture
“Real courage is when you know you’re licked before you begin, but you begin anyway and see it through no matter what.”
― Harper Lee, To Kill a Mockingbird
“Even if I knew that tomorrow the world would go to pieces, I would still plant my apple tree.”
― Martin Luther
“Never give in. Never give in. Never, never, never, never—in nothing, great or small, large or petty—never give in, except to convictions of honour and good sense. Never yield to force. Never yield to the apparently overwhelming might of the enemy.”
― Winston Churchill
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As we talk to outdoor tv personality and wilderness guide Jim Shockey on this episode of the Manlihood ManCast, we learn about the way people crave adventure, the way the outdoors is healing, and the importance of hunting for managing the balance of nature.
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Jim Shockey is an award-winning outdoor writer, hunter, wildlife photographer and videographer, outfitter and wilderness guide, and naturalist.
Shockey owns several outfitting territories in the Canadian wildlands, and helps many adventurers trek through the backwoods on epic hunts.
He’s also known for his proficiency with muzzleloaders, rifles, and archery.
Jim Shockey on Television
Shockey is the former producer and host of Jim Shockey’s Hunting Adventures and Jim Shockey’s Uncharted on Outdoor Channel and Jim Shockey’s The Professionals on Outdoor Channel and Sportsman Channel.
He has won 15 Golden Moose Awards from 2009-2017.
More About Jim Shockey
He is a retired Honorary Lieutenant Colonel of 4 Canadian Ranger Patrol Group (4CRPG) Canadian Armed Forces and is a Member International of the Explorer’s Club in New York City.
Jim attended Simon Fraser University and Carleton University and was an all-American swimmer and member of the Canadian National Water polo team, attending two World Championships.
Jim Shockey and the Hand of Man Museum
In this episode of the Manlihood ManCast, Jim Shockey talks about his lifelong project, The Hand of Man Museum. When he was a young boy, he had a vision to create this museum, and he has spent his whole life collecting natural history and ethnographic arts from Western Canada.
In 2019, he opened the Hand of Man Museum of Cultural Arts and Conservation on Vancouver Island, Canada. Tens of thousands have been through this amazing museum, which is funded entirely by voluntary donations.
