Has your wife ever asked you to be more romantic? In episode 76, JOSH HATCHER digs into the question of How to be more romantic. It involves listening, and taking the time to know her needs. You can’t fake this guys – you have to put in the work.
When the moon, white as bone, Passes in front of the sun. The earth is shrouded for a moment. Still. Quiet. And mesmerized. Only the sun’s fiery crown lights up the edge of the sky.
Yellow fire turns black. The bone white moon turns black. And wisps of sun fire glow almost green or blue.
Perspective really is everything. She can block out the sun. She can inspire poets to dance, wise men to wonder, children to blind themselves to get a once in a lifetime glimpse.
And a day’s journey away – the moon passes over, and no one even notices. The world isn’t ending. The sun doesn’t go dark. No one is on their manicured lawns staring at the sky through goggles.
From their perspective, nothing changes. No bone white moon. No fiery crown. No blackened sky.
I have no idea what was original, and what has been replaced and hobbled. The antique yellow engine, half the age of the rest sputtered and coughed up diesel, spinning her belt.
The old sawn boards, greyed and cragged by the sun – cracks filled with white pine sawdust.
The old steel, tracks and carriage were black, with orange crust creeping at the edges. We kept it and the massive blade covered with rubber tarps, but moisture always found a way in….
Just enough to leave a little crust, not enough to eat it away.
My job was to clean the bark with an old crowbar. The bath in the deep millpond usually did it’s trick. The bark would shed like t-shirt… mostly in one piece.
We spun the log on the carriage, Old Man Bill and I.
I’d dodge his occasional curses as she played with him.
She’d taunt and tease. After all, she was much older than Old Man Bill.
And I’d stand on the backside of the blade, guiding the timbers over the rollers to the forklift.
On a hot day, she would reward me, coating me with wet sawdust and millpond spray. Oh, the smell of white pine and pond water and diesel was the best summer.
And at the end of the day, the spring that fed the millpond would give me a drink. I’d stick my whole face into the hole in the ground and suck the water in. Drowning just long enough to cool my hot tongue.
IN THIS EPISODE, JOSH HATCHER TALKS ABOUT THINKING, SPEAKING, and BEING POSITIVE. There is a tremendous power when we put aside the toxic and negative thoughts that hold us back. We feel, sometimes, hopelessness or despair, and like there can be no positive outcome. But when we change the way we think, it changes the way we feel, and in fact, it changes the outcome itself!
When you tell me to be silent. When you tell me to hush. When you tell me my words are offensive.
I don’t think you understand Why I have to say it. Why I refuse to hold my tongue. Why these words flow.
I don’t think you understand
There is a fire in my bones. There is truth that must be spoken. And I’m physically incapable of holding it back.
I don’t think you understand
That love is not offensive.
That truth sometimes hurts.
That Love and Truth are the same person.
I don’t think you understand That fire can be refining and not only destructive. That though I am burned, I am not consumed. That this fire can’t be extinguished.
In this episode, Josh Hatcher talks about the COST of doing good.
Every action and decision has consequences. Even making the decision to do the right thing can have a negative impact sometimes. The “greater good” isn’t always a warm and fuzzy happy ending. What do we do in that instance?
In this episode, Josh Hatcher tackles the phrase “Man Up!”
It’s become almost taboo to say it, in light of a cultural shift that draws a lot of attention to Toxic Masculinity. Josh talks about that shift, and about the value in encouraging someone to “Man Up.”
How do we (men and women) take back the ground that we’ve surrendered, especially in education, media and politics? Is there a collective voice that can say unashamedly, “Enough is enough!”?
Sometimes – you just need to get alone. Our personal growth and development and progress aren’t always about doing, and about the hustle. This is hard for men to realize sometimes – that what we really need – is sometimes a little time alone in the woods.