Today’s guest has a message for dads. Ben Killoy helps dads live up to be the kind of father’s they are meant to be.
Marine Corps Vet and Dad Coach
Ben Killoy served in the Marine Corps, and he and his wife have three kids.
Ben’s journey to become a better father and find his purpose has uncovered a new passion – helping other men find their purpose and become better fathers.
Leading Men Through Their Darkness
Ben Killoy says, “We all know what goes up must come down but we forget that gravity pulls. Working together we will create a vision of a future with gravity to pull you towards it. That remaining who you are every day is the craziest thought you have ever had.”
At Manlihood, we’re curating chunks of manly wisdom for you.
If you’re like a lot of men, you may find yourself short on time for reading long books to look for wisdom that you can apply to your life…. We’re offering you the Campbells Soup version… the best quotes and insights to help inspire you to be an even better man.
Today, in honor of the upcoming Thanksgiving Holiday, we’re featuring quotes
about gratitude
Thanks for listening, and if you like these Chunks of Manly Wisdom, you’ll love the book that we put together for you. You can get it FREE at Manlihood.com/chunk
Quotes about Gratitude
“He is a wise man who does not grieve for the things which he has not, but rejoices for those which he has.” – Epictetus
“Feeling gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it.” – William Arthur Ward
“I would maintain that thanks are the highest form of thought; and that gratitude is happiness doubled by wonder.” – G.K. Chesterton
‘Enough’ is a feast. – Buddhist proverb
“If you count all your assets, you always show a profit.” – Robert Quillen
“Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things.” – Robert Brault
“As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words but to live by them.” – John F. Kennedy
“Reflect upon your present blessings, of which every man has plenty; not on your past misfortunes, of which all men have some.” – Charles Dickens
“Acknowledging the good that you already have in your life is the foundation for all abundance.” – Eckhart Tolle
“If a fellow isn’t thankful for what he’s got, he isn’t likely to be thankful for what he’s going to get.” – Frank A. Clark
“If you want to turn your life around, try thankfulness. It will change your life mightily.” – Gerald Good
“Gratitude turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos into order, confusion into clarity…it makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.” – Melody Beattie
“The world has enough beautiful mountains and meadows, spectacular skies and serene lakes. It has enough lush forests, flowered fields, and sandy beaches. It has plenty of stars and the promise of a new sunrise and sunset every day. What the world needs more of is people to appreciate and enjoy it.” – Michael Josephson
“Gratitude is a currency that we can mint for ourselves, and spend without fear of bankruptcy.” – Fred De Witt Van Amburgh
“The way to develop the best that is in a person is by appreciation and encouragement.” – Charles Schwab
More Quotes About Gratitude
“At times, our own light goes out and is rekindled by a spark from another person. Each of us has cause to think with deep gratitude of those who have lighted the flame within us.” – Albert Schweitzer
“The deepest craving of human nature is the need to be appreciated.” – William James
“Let us rise up and be thankful, for if we didn’t learn a lot today, at least we learned a little, and if we didn’t learn a little, at least we didn’t get sick, and if we got sick, at least we didn’t die; so, let us all be thankful.” – Buddha
“Silent gratitude isn’t very much to anyone.” – Gertrude Stein
“Thankfulness is the beginning of gratitude. Gratitude is the completion of thankfulness. Thankfulness may consist merely of words. Gratitude is shown in acts.” – Henri Frederic Amiel
“You cannot do a kindness too soon because you never know how soon it will be too late.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson
“When I started counting my blessings, my whole life turned around.” – Willie Nelson
“It is impossible to feel grateful and depressed in the same moment.” – Naomi Williams
“One can never pay in gratitude; one can only pay ‘in kind’ somewhere else in life.” – Anne Morrow Lindbergh
“Things turn out best for people who make the best of the way things turn out.” – John Wooden
“No one who achieves success does so without the help of others. The wise and confident acknowledge this help with gratitude.” – Alfred North Whitehead
“Forget yesterday–it has already forgotten you. Don’t sweat tomorrow–you haven’t even met. Instead, open your eyes and your heart to a truly precious gift–today.” – Steve Maraboli
“We should certainly count our blessings, but we should also make our blessings count.” – Neal A. Maxwell
“In ordinary life, we hardly realize that we receive a great deal more than we give, and that it is only with gratitude that life becomes rich.” – Dietrich Bonhoeffer
“I truly believe we can either see the connections, celebrate them, and express gratitude for our blessings, or we can see life as a string of coincidences that have no meaning or connection. For me, I’m going to believe in miracles, celebrate life, rejoice in the views of eternity, and hope my choices will create a positive ripple effect in the lives of others. This is my choice.” – Mike Ericksen
“Gratitude also opens your eyes to the limitless potential of the universe, while dissatisfaction closes your eyes to it.” – Stephen Richards
“Gratitude and attitude are not challenges; they are choices.” – Robert Braathe
“They both seemed to understand that describing it was beyond their powers, the gratitude that spreads through your body when a burden gets lifted, and the sense of homecoming that follows, when you suddenly remember what it feels like to be yourself.” – Tom Perrotta
“Gratitude is more of a compliment to yourself than someone else.” – Raheel Farooq
“Keep your eyes open and try to catch people in your company doing something right, then praise them for it.” – Tom Hopkins
“In life, one has a choice to take one of two paths: to wait for some special day–or to celebrate each special day.” – Rasheed Ogunlaru
In this episode of the Manlihood ManCast, Josh Hatcher talks with Harvey Laguerre. Harvey is podcast, a baseball fan, but his primary role is that of a stay-at-home dad.
Josh and Harvey talk about a number of things, including the stigma of a man not pursuing a career in order to raise his family, Harvey’s perspective on the world as a black man, and a meaningful conversation that gets to the heart of what it means to be a man.
Harvey Laguerre is a 47 year old, stay-at-home dad of 4.
During the pandemic, Harvey started a marriage and relationship podcast with is wife called “Love is Black.” That podcast’s success emboldened Harvey to start a new podcast, specifically for men.
Men are the P.R.I.Z.E. podcast is the result of years of learning what it means to be a man in the world today.
Harvey says, “The definition of masculinity has changed drastically and not for the better. Attributes that were once manly, are now toxic. What has not changed is the lack of safe spaces for men to express their emotions. Being a vulnerable man is not celebrated like it should be. This podcast is that safe space for men to open up and reveal their inner monologue.”
The “Men Are The Prize” is a podcast for men to be open and vulnerable. Harvey uses PRIZE as an acronym, and that acronym directs his conversations with his guests.
Each letter represents a characteristic men need to succeed.
Norah Mirnerny: “For some, the deadly virus and its upheaval constituted the “first big thing they’d ever been through.” Meanwhile, McInerny and others whose lives had been shaped by grief, loss or tragedy had long known that “life is fragile and our pace in this modern world is untenable.”
Nora McInerny: I want my work to lower the bar for people. We have so much intense pressure to achieve and to perform in the face of all the suffering and struggle of modern life. You do not have to do anything other than just be a decent person and survive.
An Iranian hermit known as “the world’s dirtiest man” has died at the ripe age of 94, just months after taking his first wash in decades, Iranian state media announced.
“Amu Haji” – Uncle Haji – as he was referred to, died on Sunday in Dezhgah, a village in the country’s southern province of Fars, state news agency IRNA reported.
According to the region’s district head, Haji had for decades avoided fresh food and believed that “if he cleans himself, he will get sick,” the agency reported.
Sports Rivalry and Loyalty
The Fight Club panel also talks about sports, and the fan loyalty that turns into rivalry between friends and family.
Bullying
Bullying is also on the agenda, and the group discusses the way to end bullying.
And today’s guest has 25 years of experience as a doctor helping with men’s issues. He’s performed thousands of surgeries and been a pioneer in surgical robotics.
Dr. Judson Brandeis is the guest on this episode of The Manlihood ManCast
Listen to Dr. Judson Brandeis on the Manlihood ManCast on Spotify | Apple Podcasts | Youtube or wherever you listen to podcasts.
We will have Dr. Judson Brandeis on the show again soon, as he has recently done some work on the cutting edge of men’s sexual health that we want to be able to share with you!
From 2014 to 2020, his colleagues voted him as a Top Urologist in the San Francisco Bay Area, and he serves as Chief of Urology at John Muir Hospital and Hill Physicians for several years.
He attended Brown University, and got his MD at Vanderbilt. He’s been awarded the Howard Hughes Award for his research at Harvard Medical School, and he completed his surgery/urology residency (six years!) at UCLA.
Now, in the second half of his career, Dr. Brandeis is committed to “Optimizing Manhood.”
Helping men Feel Great, Look Good and Have Better Physical Intimacy so they can Leave a Legacy.
Dr. Brandeis’ clinical research improved men’s lives as he explores ways to better their sexual health, and overall physical health.
He stays on top of the latest treatments by attending Sexual Medicine and Urology meetings. He is the sirector of Sexual Medicine at The Aesthetic Show, and has written Sexual Medicine chapters for textbooks to educate other physicians as well.
What others are saying about Dr. Brandeis Book “The 21 Century Man”
“This book is one-stop shopping for the man who wants to improve, maintain, and optimize his health.” —Aaron Spitz, MD, Author of The Penis Book, Chair of AUA Telehealth Task Force, frequent guest on The Doctors
“Dr. Brandeis’s text on men’s health is a true tour de force. This will be valuable for all men over 40!” —Andrew Hecht, MD,Professor of Orthopedics and Neurosurgery, Chief of Spine Surgery, Mt Sinai Medical Center
“This comprehensive volume provides clear and concise coverage of all topics in men’s health, from head to toe and every organ in between. His bite-sized summaries are direct, thoughtful, and incredibly useful in demystifying the structure and function of all the critical parts of the male body.” —Mark S. Litwin, MD, MPH, Chairman of urology and professor of public health, UCLA
“The foundation of great, steamy sex is good health. All you need to know is in this book—practical, powerful and scientifically grounded information from leading authorities for satisfying sex that gets better with age.” —Susan Bratton, Intimacy Expert, Author, Co-founder/CEO of Personal Life Media and The20
Men often face an inner battle when they clock in to work everyday. A lack of fulfillment – the feeling of being a slave to the wage – and a desire for freedom and purpose can leave many men feeling hopeless and void. Our guest today, Ken Coleman, is working hard to help folks make the most of their careers.
America’s Career Coach
Ken Coleman is America’s Career Coach, the #1 national bestselling author of The Proximity Principle and From Paycheck to Purpose, and host of The Ken Coleman Show. Ken helps people discover what they were born to do and provides practical steps to make their dream job a reality. The Ken Coleman Show is a nationally syndicated, caller-driven show that helps listeners who are searching for something more out of their career.
Alonzo talks with Manlihood about the traditional values he believes in, and how it matters that men work to live by and preserve those values.
Leadership matters
“When we promote leaders, we typically promote based on skills other than leadership and this creates dysfunctional organizations. Leadership is a skill that can be learned and my simple and effective method can improve your team quickly.” – Alonzo Pettigrew
At Manlihood, we’re curating manly chunks of wisdom for you. If you’re like a lot of men, you may find yourself short on time for reading long books to look for wisdom that you can apply to your life…. We’re offering you the Campbell’s Soup version… the best quotes and insights to help inspire you to be an even better man.
Listen to the Manlihood ManCast – a podcast for men on Spotify | Apple Podcasts | Youtube or wherever you listen to podcasts.
Perseverance is a virtue that all men should strive for. To continue on through trial and hardship is at the very nature of manhood.
Everyone has been faced with the temptation to quit. Let’s dig our heels in, and press in for the victory that we all crave, together.
I’ve compiled a selection of some of the best nuggets of wisdom out there concerning perseverance from a variety of sources.
Perseverance Quotes
Courage doesn’t always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying ‘I will try again tomorrow.’
–Mary Anne Radmacher, American author and artist
Fall seven times and stand up eight.
–Japanese Proverb
It’s not that I’m so smart, it’s just that I stay with problems longer.
–Albert Einstein (1879-1955), physicist and developer of the theory of relativity
Failure is not the end
Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.
–Thomas Edison (1874-1931), inventor of the light bulb
Failure is only the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently.
–Henry Ford (1863-1947), founder of Ford Motor Company
A failure is not always a mistake. It may simply be the best one can do under the circumstances. The real mistake is to stop trying.
–B.F. Skinner (1904-1990), American psychologist
As I look back on my life, I realize that every time I thought I was being rejected from something good, I was actually being redirected to something better.
–Dr. Steve Maraboli, speaker and author
Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out.
–Robert Collier (1885-1950), American self-help author
Don’t ever quit
It does not matter how slowly you go so long as you do not stop.
–Confucius (551-479 BC), philosopher
Never confuse a single defeat with a final defeat.
–F. Scott Fitzgerald (1896-1940), American author
Perseverance is the hard work you do after you get tired of doing the hard work you already did.
–Newt Gingrich (1943- ), American politician, historian, and author
Perseverance is failing 19 times and succeeding the 20th.
–Julie Andrews (1935- ), English film and stage actress
Through perseverance many people win success out of what seemed destined to be certain failure.
–Benjamin Disraeli (1804-1881), British politician and writer
Success seems to be largely a matter of hanging on after others have let go.
–William Feather (1889-1981), American author
Develop success from failures. Discouragement and failure are two of the surest stepping stones to success.
–Dale Carnegie (1888-1955), world-renowned author and speaker
Failure is often that early morning hour of darkness which precedes the dawning of the day of success.
–Leigh Mitchell Hodges (1876-1954), journalist and poet
Make a way
We will either find a way or make one.
–Hannibal (247-182 BC), Carthaginian General
It always seems impossible until it’s done.
–Nelson Mandela (1918-2013), South African anti-apartheid leader
The best way out is always through.
–Robert Frost (1874-1963), American poet
A winner is just a loser who tried one more time.
–George M. Moore Jr. (1862-1940), Member U.S. House of Representatives
Defeat is not the worst of failures. Not to have tried is the true failure.
–George Edward Woodberry (1855-1930), American poet
Things are about to get better
When you get into a tight place and everything goes against you … never give up then, for that is just the place and time that the tide will turn.
–Harriet Beecher Stowe (1811-1896), American abolitionist and author
The man who moves a mountain begins by carrying away small stones.
–Confucius (551-479 BC), philosopher
I am a slow walker, but I never walk back.
–Abraham Lincoln (1809-1865), 16th President of the United States
Every strike brings me closer to the next home run.
–Babe Ruth (1895-1948), baseball legend
Courage is not having the strength to go on; it is going on when you don’t have the strength.
–Theodore Roosevelt (1858-1919), 26th President of the United States
Character consists of what you do on the third and fourth tries.
–James A. Michener (1907-1997), American author
Perseverance is not a long race; it is many short races one after the other.
–Walter Elliot (1888-1958), Scottish politician
The only courage that matters is the kind that gets you from one moment to the next.
–Mignon McLaughlin (1913-1983), American journalist and author
Let me tell you the secret that has led to my goal. My strength lies solely in my tenacity.
–Louis Pasteur (1822-1895), scientist and inventor of the pasteurization process
Winston Churchill Quotes about Perseverance
Success is not final, failure is not fatal: It is the courage to continue that counts.
–Winston Churchill (1874-1965), former Prime Minister of the United Kingdom
“If you are going through hell, keep going.”
― Winston S. Churchill
“Rivers know this: there is no hurry. We shall get there some day.”
― A.A. Milne, Winnie-the-Pooh
“The brick walls are there for a reason. The brick walls are not there to keep us out. The brick walls are there to give us a chance to show how badly we want something. Because the brick walls are there to stop the people who don’t want it badly enough. They’re there to stop the other people.”
― Randy Pausch, The Last Lecture
“Real courage is when you know you’re licked before you begin, but you begin anyway and see it through no matter what.”
― Harper Lee, To Kill a Mockingbird
“Even if I knew that tomorrow the world would go to pieces, I would still plant my apple tree.”
― Martin Luther
“Never give in. Never give in. Never, never, never, never—in nothing, great or small, large or petty—never give in, except to convictions of honour and good sense. Never yield to force. Never yield to the apparently overwhelming might of the enemy.”
― Winston Churchill
Thanks for listening, and if you like these Manly Chunks of Wisdom, you’ll love the book that we put together for you. You can get it FREE at Manlihood.com/chunk
As we talk to outdoor tv personality and wilderness guide Jim Shockey on this episode of the Manlihood ManCast, we learn about the way people crave adventure, the way the outdoors is healing, and the importance of hunting for managing the balance of nature.
Listen to Josh Hatcher’s interview with Jim Shockey on the Manlihood ManCast – Spotify | Apple Podcasts | Youtube | or wherever you listen to podcasts!
Jim Shockey is an award-winning outdoor writer, hunter, wildlife photographer and videographer, outfitter and wilderness guide, and naturalist.
Shockey owns several outfitting territories in the Canadian wildlands, and helps many adventurers trek through the backwoods on epic hunts.
He’s also known for his proficiency with muzzleloaders, rifles, and archery.
Jim Shockey on Television
Shockey is the former producer and host of Jim Shockey’s Hunting Adventures and Jim Shockey’s Uncharted on Outdoor Channel and Jim Shockey’s The Professionals on Outdoor Channel and Sportsman Channel.
He has won 15 Golden Moose Awards from 2009-2017.
More About Jim Shockey
He is a retired Honorary Lieutenant Colonel of 4 Canadian Ranger Patrol Group (4CRPG) Canadian Armed Forces and is a Member International of the Explorer’s Club in New York City.
Jim attended Simon Fraser University and Carleton University and was an all-American swimmer and member of the Canadian National Water polo team, attending two World Championships.
Jim Shockey and the Hand of Man Museum
In this episode of the Manlihood ManCast, Jim Shockey talks about his lifelong project, The Hand of Man Museum. When he was a young boy, he had a vision to create this museum, and he has spent his whole life collecting natural history and ethnographic arts from Western Canada.
In 2019, he opened the Hand of Man Museum of Cultural Arts and Conservation on Vancouver Island, Canada. Tens of thousands have been through this amazing museum, which is funded entirely by voluntary donations.
Testicular Fortitude means having deep seated masculine courage and strength. Balls. Guts. Manlihood.
Testicular Fortitude on the Manlihood ManCast is where we take a look at men who have beat the odds, men whose courage has left a lasting legacy.
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Imagine taking a lead musketbal to your arm, having it sawn off in a field hospital, and then going on to explore uncharted and impassable rivers on a raft with only one good arm…
As his name would suggest, John Wesley Powell was the son of a Methodist preacher. He grew up with a fascination for exploration and nature, and as a young man, went on several river expeditions to study fossils and geology along the Ohio and Mississippi Rivers.
But then the Civil War broke out, and he earned a commission as 2nd Lieutenant in the Union Army. At the battle of Shiloh, his right forearm was shattered by a minie-ball, and his arm was amputated. He continued to serve in the army throughout the war, helping with Sherman’s artillery.
After the war, he assumed the role of professor of natural sciences at Illinois Wesleyan University and curator of the Illinois Natural History Society Museum.
But you can’t keep a man like Powell contained to the classroom.
With one arm, he went on to explore Pike’s Peak and the front range of the Rockies.
In 1868 he put together an expedition to explore the Colorado River from Wyoming down through the Grand Canyon. Powell, along with a crew of hunters, trappers, civil war vets.
He was begged not to go. One arm through dangerous uncharted rapids is dangerous business. But he went anyway. And that trip was worthy of those warnings.
One of the party’s rafts sank in Utah, tanking about a fourth of their supplies and most of their scientific equipment.
Four days later, the party entered the Grand Canyon, and marveled at the beautiful rock formations… but they almost lost another boat, and in that mishap, they lost even more of their food.
Three men left the expedition, tired of the hard journey. Those three men were killed by a band of natives who thought they were invading their territory.
As Powell and the remaining crew made it to area that is known now as Lake Mead in Nevada, he halted the expedition, returning two years later with another crew to make accurate maps of the Colorado River.
These expeditions yielded much geographic information, as well as linguistic and cultural information about the Native Americans living in the area.
Anytime we look at history, we can see positives and negatives. Critics of Powell’s work say that some of his ideas and opinions about the native population dehumanized them and had a large impact on the public policies that would have a brutal effect on their relationship with the US Government and the Westward Expansion.
And while I may not agree with everything Powell said, did or thought, we can certainly agree that he was a man whose courage and relentless adventuring spirit show that he had testicular fortitude!
Do you have testicular fortitude? Do you want to embrace your life of courage?
