Hot Summer Nights: It’s not about you

At Manlihood.com, we don’t want to be like Esquire, GQ, or Maxim. We have a different moral compass and a different motivation than other men’s magazines. But that doesn’t mean we have to be afraid to talk about sexuality. This month, we’re going to talk about how to reignite your sex life with your spouse. Disclaimer: I may be a little old fashioned. My perspective on sex may be filled with assumptions about marriage as the primary conduit for sexual activity. This doesn’t mean I’m judging anyone who does it differently. I’ll leave it up to you how you apply these blog posts.

You’ve got to redefine what sex is for you. I think because it’s so satisfying, we treat our sexual needs like thirst or hunger.

But it’s really not like that at all.

Sex is meant to be something to help you bond with your spouse. You meet her needs, and she meets your needs.

As long as you keep her as your end result, you’ll keep her satisfied, and she’ll reciprocate.

Instead, we’ve allowed it to become selfish. Men that don’t satisfy their women is the punchline of way too many jokes… because it reflects a cold reality, that men are selfish in the bedroom.

Don’t be selfish – put her needs first. Do that, and you’ll get more than you can keep up with.