Hot Summer Nights: Reigniting Romance

At Manlihood.com, we don’t want to be like Esquire, GQ, or Maxim. We have a different moral compass and a different motivation than other men’s magazines. But that doesn’t mean we have to be afraid to talk about sexuality. This month, we’re going to talk about how to reignite your sex life with your spouse. Disclaimer: I may be a little old fashioned. My perspective on sex may be filled with assumptions about marriage as the primary conduit for sexual activity. This doesn’t mean I’m judging anyone who does it differently. I’ll leave it up to you how you apply these blog posts.

Listen up men. Sex doesn’t start in the bedroom, it starts in the everyday. If you find yourself in a slump – you may need to do some inventory in the romance department.

Look at romance like a gas tank. If you don’t put gasoline in – the car will eventually run out. When it runs out, you may hear the soup nazi call, “No Soup for You!”
(forgive me if I’m mixing metaphors!)

Are you investing in your bride? Are you spending the time OUTSIDE of the bedroom to make her want you later?

Here’s a list of things to start doing to reignite that romance.

Hold hands in public.
Write her a love note, thanking her for what she does for you.
Call her on your lunch break.
Buy her a cupcake.
Cook dinner.
Hold the door open for her.
TELL HER she’s beautiful. (Do this often.)
Gift gifts that make her feel special.
Play games together.
Whatever you USED to do together for fun – do again.
Ease her load by helping her with washing the dishes or the laundry.
Send her a letter in the mail.

Really, the key is know her, what her her needs are – and seeing it as your role to meet those needs.